How To Overcome Procrastination So You Can Enjoy Your Life

You sit behind your desk, overwhelmed by the list of things you know you have to do today.

Your conscience is nagging you, asking “Why was I so lazy yesterday? Why didn’t I get anything done? Now, I have to pay for it… what can I tell my boss, when the job’s not done?”

It can be overwhelming.

You procrastinate because you don’t enjoy your life, and have lost your balance.

If you enjoyed your life, and the tasks you set yourself, you wouldn’t procrastinate.

But that’s easier said than done.

A major cause of procrastination is that your rebellious Inner Child sabotages your working hours because it wants playtime and fun, and expression.

We all have an Inner Child  and a Superego inside of us. Both have different desires, and you should try to balance their wishes. Otherwise, you get frustrated, stranded, overworked, and unhappy.

When you procrastinate, your Superego wants to fulfill certain tasks, and the Inner Child wants playtime. Your Inner Child loves to have sex, love and rock’n’roll instead of facing tasks you know you have to complete.

The Superego yearns to fit into society. It wants prestige and wealth. However, if you constantly ignore the desires of your Inner Child for those of your Superego, it will procrastinate and sabotage your efforts.

Stress works.

Imagine you are under stress, you can’t work  and the deadline draws closer. At the last minute, you somehow find the will to finish that task. Why? Your Inner Child is terrified, and at the end, it agrees.

In the meantime, you have wasted your precious time, instead of making the most of it. You have mixed up your leisure time and your working hours.

It has been said that one of the worst sins is to waste time, because no one can buy time back!

It’s a vicious circle. – Instead of forgiving yourself and enjoying your life, you punish yourself and make everything worse.

If you had allowed your Inner Child to get enough playtime -for instance playing with the kids or being creative –  you would enjoy your work.

If you suppress your Inner Child, you can never  enjoy your life. You need to make the choice to embrace your Inner Child.

Forgive yourself

You should forgive yourself for having a little ‘you’ time. Schedule a time for guilt-free joy and fun, so that you are motivated to work.

As a student I was under tremendous pressure to pass my examinations. One day a friend asked me, “How can you study so hard and yet understand so little?”

I answered “because I am stupid”. He agreed and told me I was putting myself under too much under pressure. “You need to have some fun time” he told me.

I took his advice. Even though I had to do my thesis, I spent 3 days windsurfing and swimming. Afterwards I easily worked for 16 hours straight to finish my thesis because I was relaxed and motivated.

If you are working under pressure, you are losing 80% of your creativity. Use your Inner Child to become creative

When I write my blog, my Inner Child is happy because it loves to write or to be creative. So schedule and frame your job so that your Inner Child will enjoy the play and the work…

How to deal with your Inner Child?

Every time you think “you have to” or “you must do” you put your Inner Child under pressure and it will rebel, like every infant.

Instead of using negative commands to coerce, use positive ones to lead. This is Behavioral Psychology 101.

Start with joy and then work! Go to bed early and get up early, so that you have enough time to enjoy the morning.

When you get up in the morning, start with self–massage, body exercise, Chi- Gong Yoga, or Meditation. Or start with making love to your spouse and then body-exercise Enjoy your breakfast, and if possible, cycle to your work.

When you come back from work, have your fun and pleasure time already planned. Even if you are frustrated with your job, you will be looking forward to enjoying your leisure time.

And that is crucial.

Enjoy your life!!

If you can schedule your working hours, limit yours to 45 minutes at a time. Afterwards take some time out for 10 minutes, work again or enjoy your leisure time. Brendon Burchard for example works 45 minutes and then does 10 minutes Chi-Gong.

After a while it will feel unnatural to work for longer than 45 minutes at one go, and your problems with procrastination will be over.

What would it be like if you could start to enjoy your life and work?

Or do you like to suffer? Say yes, to your incredible Inner Child, give your Inner Child the pleasure that it needs and work motivated!

Stop to think: I have to or I must…

Ask yourself what you love to do now and do it… Afterwards, work for a 3/4 hours no more. Then stop, relax and pause for a while and then start working again.

What do you like to do in your free time that you have never tried before?

What you love to do?

After your job enjoy your life.

Life is too short to waste your time…