What do YOU want from life? (Check out 71 Things That Others Want)

By Mary Jaksch

What do you want from life? Many people struggle with this question. Maybe you do too? Life can get so busy that we don’t have time to really think about what we want out of life. And when we do find what we want, it can seem impossible to achieve it.

I’m planning new eBook. So I’m keen to address what you want to know and what would make a difference to your life. I recently emailed participants of Virtual Zen Retreats and asked, ‘What is the one thing you want from life?’ I got some fascinating answers and want to share them with you. Below you can find some of the responses.

Here’s what other people want from life. Which responses do you resonate with?

Spirituality

  1. to have some clarity of mind;
  2. to feel each day more nearer to my inner self, be centered;
  3. to know myself;
  4. to have a greater level of spiritual joy that raises me above our human burdens;
  5. to live with intention and purpose;
  6. to be in the ocean of love and wisdom;
  7. to get a meaningful glimpse of the spiritual good side of everyone I come in contact with;
  8. to learn how to meditate when you do not have a lot of time to do so;
  9. to know how to abandon the shallower world around us to reach greater levels of peace;
  10. to really feel alive. I know that feeling. It doesn’t matter if you feel sad or happy there is a richness to it that is sometimes missing and I feel a dullness;
  11. to feel connected and not separated and lost would change my life;
  12. to stop searching answers to unanswerable questions and just live;
  13. Meaningful Life

  14. at the end, to be able to say I made a positive change that had a major effect on a large community (leaving the world better off somehow)
  15. the one thing I want out of life is purpose. To find my calling and live it;
  16. to know that I am on the path to finding and following my calling;
  17. to help people heal old wounds;
  18. to live with intention and purpose;
  19. to live my life as I do and want, to grow my soul through the lessons;
  20. to be creative;
  21. to learn how to stop myself from being short with my loved ones when they try to be kind;
  22. to understand life’s purpose;
  23. it would drastically change my life having a clear objective and a clear way of pursuing it;

    Happiness

  24. to be who I am, total connection with my spirit;
  25. to end disconnection from others (which leads to loneliness);
  26. to be in touch with life;
  27. to be intimate and less afraid;

    Peace of Mind

  28. to have peace of mind;
  29. to be free from worry and fear
  30. to honor our bodies, our minds, our spirits – and each other;
  31. to feel serenity in making life decisions that are aligned with all those values;
  32. to be peaceful so I may be free of these knee jerk responses so that I may act from compassion and wisdom;
  33. to have peace of mind and clarity;
  34. to stop my perfectionism and actually do better at work and in everything else;
  35. to have silence in my head;
  36. to turn off that inner voice always talking;
  37. to get rid of unwanted negative thoughts;
  38. to stop judging my thoughts;
  39. to ride peacefully with whatever is presented on my journey;
  40. to learn how to maintain internal emotional peace (especially from fear), so that I can gain self-confidence.
  41. to learn step by step processes on how let go, detach, not judge, feel inner peace;
  42. how to control anguish, frustration, and not to let others harm you;
  43. not to compare my needs with others and be attached to outcomes to look good;
  44. how to feel free. I know it is all in my head, but I often feel hindered by other people and their demands. Why can I not be who I am and not feel guilty about it?

    Productivity

  45. to master time-management;
  46. to develop self discipline;
  47. to create good habits;
  48. to experience a paradigm shift that helps me view challenges differently, especially relating to self discipline and motivation;
  49. to learn how to be in the zone;
  50. to be more productive and focused;

    Self-acceptance and confidence

  51. to build enough self-confidence to spread my message to wider audiences;
  52. to quiet the negative self-talk;
  53. to move away from negative self-limiting thoughts;
  54. to quell my self doubts and just get on with it so that my life doesn’t feel like it’s one step forward and two steps back;
  55. to recognize all the good in my life, and being content with it.
  56. to worry less about my performance at work (which is very high, but due to family conditioning, I always feel ‘on trial’);
  57. to feel more courage, and less embarrassment;
  58. to be confident about consistently making good decisions;

    Meaningful Work

  59. to fInd a way to earn a living doing something that contributes to others, yet doesn’t rob my soul;
  60. to find a passion and stick with it;
  61. to find a way to pursue my calling while also supporting my family financially.
  62. to be able to find fulfillment in my career.
  63. to find how to reconcile productivity and relaxation. Oftentimes I get so engaged in my work that I end up burning out or running into hours for relaxation.
  64. to truly zero in on the essence of what my talent or gift is;
  65. to realize that what I have to offer is exactly what the world needs at this point in time;
  66. to achieve my fullest potential in terms of skills that I have;
  67. to translate my potential into a comfortable lifestyle for me and my family;
  68. to feel like I’m not just ‘going through the motions’ at work and remove the feeling that my ‘real’ life is lived outside of work
  69. to know what I want and have the resolve not to re-evaluate it too soon;

    Happiness

  70. to feel more free, and that my many, many obligations would not be an obstacle to feel free.
    to know that what I’m doing is worthwhile – raising kids, the work I do, the way I live my life and interact with people.
  71. to make a positive difference for people close to me. and therefore be happy.
  72. to maintain a good work/life balance;

In the light of these responses, it seems that what most people yearn for is to feel peaceful, to be relieved of self-doubts, and to engage in meaningful work.

Which of these responses do you resonate with?
What would you like to add to this list?
Please offer us your thoughts in the comments.

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  1. Peggy Sirk says:

    In this life I would like ~ To be the light and see the light in others

  2. So many of these resonated, Mary, it looked like someone had been peeking in my journals!

    I want to spend my life loving, supporting people and touching hearts with the song I was born to sing.

    PS It’s my bloggling’s birthday today, and as you were its first ‘godmother’, I just wanted to say a quick thank you! I’ll never forget your help.
    .-= janice | Sharing the Journey´s last blog ..A Patchwork Post: Quote-hunting, My Bloggling’s Birthday…and Cake! =-.

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      Hi Janice, you say:
      “I want to spend my life loving, supporting people and touching hearts with the song I was born to sing.”

      It’s great that you have a sense of what kind of song you are born to sing! So many people can’t find what it is that might make their life meaningful.

      Congratulations on the birthday of your blog – well done!

  3. DiscoveredJoys says:

    A very thought provoking post, as usual. Some of the ‘wants’ certainly resonated.

    I drunk a mug of tea while I thought about them. I decided that what I wanted at any single point in my life had varied with my age and circumstances – hardly an earthshaking revelation. So then I considered what I would want at the *end* of my life, some stunning grand phrase that would encapsulate all the differing wants of my life. Certainly a feeling of peace, living a meaningful life in accordance with my values, and being relieved of unnecessary expectations all came into it. But in the end, it boiled down to a single word – contentment.

    OK, so perhaps that needs some explanation. I guess different folks might have other ways of defining it, but for me ‘contentment’ captures the idea of feeling that there are no sharp regrets, no spirit destroying fears, no shameful failure of values, complete forgiveness, sound relationships, realised ambitions, sufficient wisdom, enough compassion, and plenty of sweet moments of joy and happiness. I’m not sure I can achieve all that, but trying to achieve it will be worthwhile.

    • Patricia Lane says:

      The absolute truth of these words speaks volumes to my soul Carefully considered and written down, it shows a simple yet deeply moving sentiment. One with which I agree with whole-heartedly. It moves me in a quiet sort of way………

  4. Isobel says:

    To get in the Vortex and stay there :)

  5. Ioan Nicut says:

    Let me pick up the spirituality collection.

    – to stop searching answers to unanswerable questions and just live; — I love this one. It seems very integrative and in peace and present in this moment.

    – to feel connected and not separated and lost would change my life; – in this one I like that the writer know what she or he wants instead of only knowing what she/he does not want.

    I feel in connection with who I am and very present right now. I am just a very unique just as you are no matter what you do and achieve. :)
    .-= Ioan Nicut´s last blog ..Cum să joci cu adevărat la înălțime =-.

  6. Lauren says:

    Hi Mary,

    It was wonderful reading the responses and realizing how universal our wants and desires are!

    I want to experience as much joy as possible in all areas of my life. Naturally that includes giving and receiving in uplifting relationships.

    And to learn to ride the wave of the ebb and flow of life gracefully much of the time.

    Lovely newsletter. Thank you!
    Lauren

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      Hi Lauren, you say: “I want to experience as much joy as possible in all areas of my life. Naturally that includes giving and receiving in uplifting relationships.”
      That’s lovely. Joy is such a wonderful word, compared to ‘happiness’. It’s much deeper… maybe I should write about the difference, eh?

  7. Pilar says:

    To have a meaninful and well payed job where I can give the best of me and that allows me enough time to develop other areas of my life

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      Yes, Pilar – to have a job that allows us to give the best of us, that’s rare. My theory is that the only way to achieve that is to create our own opportunities.

      • Tracy Carpenter says:

        I just found this lovely article. I happens I am trying to decide between two jobs. I am a nurse. One job is working for an insurance company, very wel lpaying, pleasant, but no face to face patient contact. The other is a at previous employer, a hospice, I loved the work, but it could be demanding physically, and it does not pay as well. I don’t know what criteria to use to decide! I am 59, and my family is in need of income. My heart is working with patients. I feel pulled. I am tired.

  8. nicole 86 says:

    I wish I could speak gently to myself.

    Most answers are quite inspiring. Thank you.

  9. Udaysree says:

    pretty interesting answers to your question. all want some kind of happiness expressed in so many ways… i too. please add self-realization / enlightenment to your list…
    .-= Udaysree´s last blog ..How to Become a Free Channel for the Creative Energy =-.

  10. Mary, thank you for putting this together. This post actually helped me in a unusual way. I am finishing a new product I plan on launching and recently had some last minute doubts whether the information I provide is really what people need. Reading through this answers helped me tremendously to regain my confidence. So many people are looking for their purpose and want to discover who they truly are.
    Thank you, Mary, for the great value you provide!

  11. Mary: What a great post and a great question. For me, I think what would be wonderful is to make continual progress toward my purpose and to gain continual clarity about all aspects of life along the way. Thanks for the thought provoking question. I really enjoyed your post.

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      Hi Sibyl,
      I like what you say, “to make continual progress toward my purpose.” Most people have the problem that they don’t know what their purpose is…

  12. Nezel says:

    what I want in life? I just asked myself this question yesterday! My answer is: TO BE ALL THAT I AM.

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      Hi Nezel, “To be all that I am” – yes, that’s a great aspiration. We tend to keep ourselves small instead of allowing ourselves to grow to our full inner size. Sad, eh?

  13. Em says:

    “to feel serenity in making life decisions that are aligned with all those values;”

    This one resonated with me. We all share the desire to live a life that adheres to our values, but it’s often a struggle to make choices that reflect our beliefs and what we truly want for our lives. An ebook offering guidance on that topic would be of great value to me.

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      Hi Em, hmmm – that’s interesting: “it’s often a struggle to make choices that reflect our beliefs and what we truly want for our lives.”

      I agree, it’s difficult to live a life aligned with our values. But it makes us feel that life is deeply worthwhile.

  14. Wild Alchemist says:

    I want to know the love that I am and see it touch all creation around me.

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      Ah – ‘Feel the love that I am’. My take is that this doesn’t just happen because we think it’s a good idea. There are training paths that can lead us there, for example the ancient Buddhist training tradition of Metta, or Loving-Kindness meditation. It works!

  15. I want to recognize all the good in my life, and being content with it.
    I want to enjoy the ride and not focus on the destination. whatever that may be …

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      “I want to enjoy the ride and not focus on the destination.” I’m not sure about this, Arno. Maybe there’s a middle way here, where we enjoy the ride and focus on the direction – but not on the destination?
      I’ll write a post about this soon.

  16. Muji says:

    To actualize my True Self and make a living as a creative person who lives an inspired and inspiring life filled with joy.

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      That sounds wonderful, Muji.
      To find out who we are in the depth and then to actualize that wisdom, moment by moment – that is a recipe for a fulfilled life

  17. Cheryl Paris says:

    Hello Mary,

    I am so glad to read the 71 points and have bookmarked this one. I resonate with
    10. to really feel alive. I know that feeling. It doesn’t matter if you feel sad or happy there is a richness to it that is sometimes missing and I feel a dullness;
    69. to feel more free, and that my many, many obligations would not be an obstacle to feel free.
    to know that what I’m doing is worthwhile – raising kids, the work I do, the way I live my life and interact with people.
    70. to make a positive difference for people close to me. and therefore be happy.

    Great job here!

    Bye for now,
    Cheryl
    .-= Cheryl Paris´s last blog ..How We Grew With An Acorn- N is for… =-.

  18. Justin Dixon says:

    I would like to directly inspire 1000 people, and I would like to know how I could do this successfully while being able to make enough money to support a family.
    .-= Justin Dixon´s last blog ..The 2 Sides of Perfectionism and How to Use Them =-.

  19. I want to serve people. I want to serve by motivating others and helping them find their own wisdom and divine intelligence. I want to help others live extraordinary lives and move past fears and limitations. Helping others achieve their full potential gives me enormous joy and satisfaction.

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      “I want to help others live extraordinary lives and move past fears and limitations. Helping others achieve their full potential gives me enormous joy and satisfaction.”

      That’s lovely, Barrie! It’s also a sure-fire recipe for joy and happiness :-)

    • Nikhil Nargotra says:

      Excellent thought ….

  20. Ingrid says:

    what i most wish for is confidence in myself – the knowledge that no matter how i succeed or fail, regardless of what others think about me, i am good enough.

    through that, i believe i’d gain optimism, happiness, courage, and contentment!

  21. To make a positive difference in this life, in this world.
    .-= Charley Hampton´s last blog ..Your Average Customer… =-.

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      Albert Schweitzer, a German physician who received a Nobel Peace Prize for his work as a doctor in west central Africa said:
      “I don’t know what your destiny will be, but those who will be truly happy are those who seek out and find how to serve.”

  22. Crowgirl says:

    I want to live a sustainable, rewarding life full of learning, growth, and creativity.

  23. Wild Alchemist says:

    Mary, I will search Metta mediation. Thanks!

  24. Hari says:

    I would like ‘ fear of nothing, courage and confidence to always speak my mind up, and clarity of and control over my thoughts’

    • Mary Jaksch says:

      That’s interesting, Hari. Now this might sound strange but I think that ‘fear of nothing’ and ‘courage’ aren’t bedfellows. Only those who have fear need courage :-)

      My sense is that we are all afraid at some level. The more we acknowledge and accept that we are fearful, the more our courage grows.
      What do you think?

      • Hari says:

        ‘The more we acknowledge and accept that we are fearful, the more our courage grows’. Thats very insightful of you Mary. Cant agree more with you on this. And when i said fear of nothing, i meant fear of losing earthly possessions and fear of failure. When i said courage to speak up, i meant getting rid of my inhibitions. Sorry for not being clearer in the first instance. Can you also shed some light on ‘Clarity and control over thoughts’ ?

        • Mary Jaksch says:

          Well, I’m in two minds about ‘controlling thoughts’. I don’t like the idea of having a ‘mind police’ that hunts down our inappropriate thoughts and throws them into a dungeon!

          I think it’s important to let go of unskillful thoughts – in a gentle way.

          Clarity is great! It means that we keep an overview and are not taken in by our negative thoughts.

  25. Forrest says:

    To be incredibly happy!
    .-= Forrest´s last blog ..Masters of the Craft =-.

  26. What I want from life is simple… to do good, which will bring happiness and tranquility to my life. To help others is to live in peace.

  27. Lucas Ferreira says:

    What I want is to be the best person I can be. I want to fulfill my life in every possible aspect.

  28. Gerald says:

    What I would like now in my life is to love and be thankful for myself so that I can know deep inside that I’m worth it. I can then let go of my insecurities and self-doubt and accept others’ love.

  29. Maggie Mae says:

    Thanks for this Mary. Very thought-provoking.

    The Serenity Prayers says it all for me: I want to be able to accept myself and the things in this world that I cannot change. I want to have the courage to develop the ability and take action to change the things about myself and about the world that I can. And I seek the wisdom to know and accept the difference between these things with grace and peace of mind. (I’m not there yet but, for me, it’s about the journey, not the destination.)
    .-= Maggie Mae´s last blog ..Positive Thinking In Challenging Times =-.

  30. Lauren says:

    Hi Mary,

    I want aliveness, compassion, joy-filled moments, fun, laughter, love, sharing, engaging, connecting, contribution, friendship, great food, and nature!
    .-= Lauren´s last blog ..Controlling Others: Not A Strategy That Makes For The Best Relationships Ever =-.

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  32. Sharron says:

    I want to continue to live respecting myself and others not giving into the conforms of this world. I want to be an inspiration and inspire others in return. I wish for more honesty in this world and a mans word should mean and be worth more than any riches he holds. I want to find my soul mate as I have an eternal fountain of love and I would be loved in return unconditionally

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  35. Subrath Shrestha says:

    I want to be in peace with my existance and its environment (joy, happiness, sorrow etc). I want to do what I have to do i.e. my karma so that others as well can have joy in their existance.

  36. bharti says:

    hi Mary,
    well it seems i like to have almost all the points mentioned in the list about life. What do i do , im totally confused what i really want. I thought many times sitting quite, analyzing my self, but cudnt get right answer, As i m not in peace the way im living…pls guide…

  37. Tejal says:

    I think over a period of time, I am more and more confident about the only thing I want from my Life

    – All I want is for to God to give me enough strength, courage to make everyone around me Happy, all the time. Making people happy, helping them in whichever way I can, makes me feel the most satisfied.

  38. anand says:

    nice to get this site

  39. mark froling says:

    To allow all of the light I’ve got shine very bright for the rest of my days…..and learn something new and wonderful every day.

  40. justlife says:

    As a caregiver, i hope for more inner strength to face the obstacles, fear, worries and to have peace of mind.

  41. Jason says:

    I would like to know that I have taken all the feelings of inadiquacy, fear, dread, dispare, confussion and all my weaknesses and transform them into something beautiful that can inspire and lift others horizons. Give people the tools to help them follow their dreams and transform them into reality and most of all to help put an end to the suffering around the world

  42. Mathilde says:

    60- to find a way to pursue my calling while also supporting my family financially AND AFFECTIVLELY: I wish I had a perfect self-fulfilling job that allowed me to keep enough time for growing children and loving partner.
    Thank you for your very inspiring blog.

  43. oliver says:

    this is really great. some of the anwers are speaking right from my head or soul.

    i´d like to add these:

    ~ stop thinking too much and starting to make my ideas happen.
    ~ to be fully in control of my life.

  44. jury brewery says:

    can any one tell me where the entrance to the kyber passage starts ? is it in the pub ?

  45. Kate says:

    I want to be a reason for the difference in the lives of other people for the betterliving…

  46. Jewish soal says:

    Your description above describes the ideal way of being a jew. In jewish life there is belonging, Purpose, aim, satisfaction, Respect, Loyalty,. I am so proud and happy to be part of a fulfilling nation. A nation that always exists and will always continue to exist because of these principals that we hold by. Thank-you for pointing it out to my thirsty jewish soal

    • Kate says:

      I am protestant from Poland.
      But jewish cilture had big impact on me, I’ve visited Shoah places, I’ve read many books about it…It changed me, I feel little guilty for such failure of humanity. So,
      doing goog for others we became better persons.
      Its my choice and everyday atitude.
      Even ist not easy and comfortable, just it…

      Just one step could change the world,
      my step, your step, her step, his step, their step
      only one……..
      Kate /mom to 4 children/
      .-= Kate´s last blog ..czy to łatwe =-.

  47. John says:

    Hi Mary,

    Hmmm, what do I want from life. For what seems like a long time now I’ve sat here wondering that exact question. The more I think of it the more I question it. Thus my problem – finding the answer. Is my life fate or is it destiny – does it have purpose?

    I have two beautiful, smart daughters and have traveled the world with the Canadian military to some of the worst spots on the planet. I also volunteer my Wednesday evenings to the homeless. I’m not sure if it’s because it makes me feel better doing something for someone or because it makes them feel better having someone do something for them (sort of the same but fundamentally different). So in a lot of ways I feel that I’ve contributed positively and have made a difference.

    Yet, everyday I wake with the same question – what do I want from life?

    Perhaps it’s to find unconditional love, a smile and warm embrace. Maybe its adventure or just immersing myself into the serenity of a peaceful setting such as a walk down a tree lined country road or sitting on a mountain.

    Maybe I already have what I want from life and just don’t know it???

    John

  48. Lorie says:

    I would like contentment, I would like enlightenment, and I would most assuredly like love, not just from someone else, but from myself. I feel I have reached three of those things and found my own personal path through this life. I really like the answers I have seen on here, and aren’t all of our roads a personal path we tread where no two are the same. Keep thinking, believing and striving.

  49. Miriah says:

    The only thing I could think of through this entire post is that I don’t want to feel alone. I want to love and feel loved. To me, that’s all I’ve ever wanted out of life. I’m floundering now, and I’ll admit it. I don’t even know where to start.

    • Elizabeth says:

      Embrace feeling alone as it gives us empathy for other people that are lonely. We need to feel alone as it is the catalyst for finding someone to love and who will love us. Our need for love changes throughout our lives. When we are young we long for romantic love and as we age we just keep loving whoever is in the room, the grocery store, the library. The most important person to love is the person standing in front of us or the person in the same room with us. Smile when we feel like crying, say something kind when we feel like complaining and soon the positive responses from others will train us to say something kind and thoughtful every time we encounter someone. In this way we learn we are not alone and good people abound. Wisdom comes with all ages and love comes from the most unexpected places. Get up and get ready every morning for an adventure. Be out doing something where there are other people. Someone will notice you shining. If we do what we have always done we will get what you have always got, but if we change our patterns of behavior and the physical places we frequent and step outside of our comfort zone by trying something new life will happen and the opportunities for love will increase. I came from my home to America and met my husband that weekend. I don’t like to fly but I flew for 10 hours to get here on my own. I was outside of my comfort zone and life gave me the gift of love.

  50. Ali says:

    Thanks for the article, It’s very interesting to find out what really people wants in this life.
    I dont know what I want and I am confused most of the time due to the amount of pressure I have on my shoulder not fo fail. I look peaceful, kind and very confident person on the outside but deep down inside I am a prisoner whose locked and don’t know how to get out!

    Well, what I want is to know me and just for once in my life to let people know me, not the ideal me. Most are not ready for the real me and that scares me.

  51. * says:

    To be free of depression.

  52. Amanda says:

    What a wonderful list! So many of these resonate with me, and I am glad to say that I am already experiencing many of them too :) Thanks for sharing this enlightening post.
    .-= Amanda´s last blog ..Trust Quotes Can Help Us Have Faith =-.

  53. Reine says:

    I want a home, a husband and two (three?) kids. I want to love unconditionally and not have it thrown back into my face.

  54. Dylan says:

    I want to die a very painful and slow death, so then I will know it hit me before It really even happened.

    • Tracy Carpenter says:

      Dear Dylan,
      I felt drawn to your post. I am a Hospice nurse, and have sat with many people as they died. Almost every one had a peaceful death, and were not afraid. Most told me that they saw loved ones in the room waiting for them before they died, and two told me, in so many words, that it was “very easy”. They knew they were about to die, knew it was about to happen, but were at peace. That is what I wanted you to know is possible, even likely, and I hope it lessens your fear of not knowing before it happens. It has lessened mine.
      Tracy Carpenter

  55. mostafa says:

    I reely need to be
    and one of men that keep in history
    iam studing engineering an d i love this field but the ability that avilable to me is less than what i expect i want t study abroad but it need alot of money but i can found any thing help me. all round me feel…………………. ;i dont know but i want to be.

  56. jack goldman says:

    I find what I want is a bad question to ask. I want to conquer the world to get all the money, sex, power, and fame possible. In other words, I want too much.

    What do I need? That is easy. I need air, water, food, love, shelter, energy, and clothing, and not very much at that. Wants are too many and they expand. Needs are simple and do not expand. Needs can be fulfilled. Wants just expand with age. The more money my wife has the less financially secure she feels and agonizes about “losing” money. Money really is nothing, a claim on the future that may or many not come true. Needs are what I try to focus on.

  57. L says:

    To comfort my dear friend who is seriously ill. Nothing else matters right now.

  58. Gino says:

    I don’t mean to be negative, only pragmatic. This is the most selfish list I have ever seen. Are people really that lost? Maybe turning off the television, cancel your cable and stop getting brainwashed by media is your first step to a more satisfied life. Forget your pastor, he/she is likely lost as well. If you desire more spirituality, just read the bible as it is, without commentary and without other biases. Read it as it is and think it through yourself.

  59. Marquita Herald says:

    Well, I’m going to add my apology up front because I know this is also going to sound negative – but this list is a joke! There’s nothing definitive or measurable on this list – it’s all pie in the sky wishing. To feel happy, to understand life’s purpose – seriously! Life’s purpose is to get out and DO something useful and stop waiting for a magic formula to feel better about yourself.

  60. DAN WICKS says:

    A baby’s arm holding an apple.

  61. It is good that people strive for happiness, peace of mind, meaningful life and other important things. Money seems important too but I am glad that people focus on improving their spiritual aspect. I would also love to master time management so that I could be able to work productively and enjoy my life more.

  62. Sarah says:

    Mary, I think your post is very encouraging. You’re right that we sometimes aren’t sure just what we want out of life, and here are some good suggestions. I’m about to finish college and so I’m starting to ask myself these questions, too.

  63. makavill3 says:

    All I want is to no why and what I’m really here for? I have so many ways to go because I am talented that I’m confused what way to go and as long as I’m happy it really don’t matter as long as I’m some where. And as long as I have the strength to choose from one talent and put it to use that’s what’s going to make me happy in life and if one don’t work then I’ll try another…..

    • Bonnie says:

      hi Makavill,

      Based on your comment it seems to me that your a talented person and highly capable of many directions in life. I persive you to be a person who has great courosity in life and many interests that capture your attention, but it almost seems like and I know I could be wrong but perhaps you are afraid to make a final descison or to take a path because maybe you sense it would not be the right one for you. Of course I do not feel I know you as well as you know your self.. bt I have few ideas if you would like to try them and see if it helps you in any way shape or form.

      1.. When you close your eyes what brings you joy and happiness and please feel free to wonder and not put shoulds or should not in this activity… just open your mind to what brings you happiness..

      2. What do you find yourself wanting to do more than any other type of work or job..
      compare to other jobs you have done… yes your good in many things, but if you can work on something all day what would that be.

      3. Do you have high ideals like helping your fellow human being in some sort of way? humanitarian goals, do you love animals, do you like selling, are you good with organizing and promoting people places or things..
      4. how many years do you give yourself to find out what is your true niche? What do you want to get out of your life.. a sense of satisfaction in a job well done in business, or more people oriented and working with disadvantage people, families .. are you interested in sports, food, money.. entrepauner? Theres so much out there as you know but theres is only one thing that makes you feel fullfilled in life..

  64. martin says:

    I would like to live longer to not regret that I haven’t try something that I really wanted, and this is why I hesitate from time to time where to go, what to choose.. What I want from life probably is to have an ability to choose.. Life is too short.

  65. martin says:

    In addition to my previous post..

    I like this one: “to achieve my fullest potential in terms of skills that I have”
    This is probably what I want, ardently desire and act upon, but it is hard to be enthusiastic about.

    And here I come with an answer: Life is too short to achieve it.

    This is why I feel sometimes like I waste my time and myself living. ;)

  66. Rozita says:

    I love u alll.

  67. Rozita says:

    I REALLY NEED A GOOD FRIEND IM F 18 FROM IRAN , MY EMAIL ADRESS IS LOONAITALY@YAHOO.COM I DONT MIND THE AGE AND GENDER FOR FRIENDSHIP, ITS MY PLEASURE TO HAVE DIFFERENT FRIENDS FROM ALL AROUND THE WORLD , COS IM INTERESTED IN KNOWING ABOUT OTHERS CUSTOMS AND ALSO RELIGIONS IM NOT A STRICKT GIRL.I LOVE ALL OF U.HOPE THE BESTS FOR MY BEST FRIENds.

  68. Rozita says:

    I know life is short but it doesnt matter. cos the situation is the same for all of us , but most of the times when we feel sad , the reason isnt actually a reasonable reason. So we should think about our thinking sometimes we feel sad with no reason , but when we move back and think y? we underastand e.g my friend said sth that i didnt like and actually we r sad but we shouldn be for little things.or sometimes we think we have problems , in some people it hapoens when they r idealist like me. idealists want every thing in best guality abd want to perform their works in a best way.and it causes stress for them to be the best and to do the best , but we human none of us r compelete without any fault.There is no reason that our thinking are true , so evaluate ur thinking and even sometimes change them , I believe we will be the person who we considered in our mind so never thinh negative all of us are created to do sth , all of us have some roles even little but we r responsible . believe in your skills never think others can but i cant.never.Im sure our lives will change if our mind changes. no need to change other cos its impossible so change ur self.bye.

  69. There are so many things that I want in life. Happiness, peace, balance, love and to love others, to know where to go in life, to know myself, to trust in my own talents, to achieve great things, and the list could go on forever.

    But when thinking about the law of attraction and how to attract things into your life, they say one must first be grateful for what they have and where they are in life, and first after that, they can move on to something greater.

    So this is me being grateful for what I have. The great life that I have. The loving family that I have. The many opportunities that I have. And simply being healthy.

    Love and Light
    Jessica T.

  70. kumi peter says:

    i want have inner happiness and also put happiness on the faces of others ( the needy ). Thank you

  71. Scott says:

    I love your ideas. How did you decide what to post. Did you apply your “common sense filter”, or was there some scientific component to your process?
    God Bless

  72. Bonnie says:

    I would like to make money and lots of it, so that I can help those who are temporarily going thru a difficult time. Maybe see them succeed in an area they have alwys wanted to do.. Because people are so complicated it is not so easy to fix things with just money.. there are values to live by, getting over our short commings and then moving on to better oneself. and so on.. What would be a start for me is to help change our laws to protect children from being abused and battered by their own families and friends.. I know there are third world countiries where the death rate of chilfren are very high, but lets take care of our weakest and our most vulnurable human beings.. starting with the children. Then taking more care of our teens who are constanly in fear of being taken by a stranger… Our money should go more towards making America safe for our children and exploited women.. Theres too much violence and the news does focus on that so much. There is no balance, but in this day and age if we can fly almost anyone to the moon why can’t our homes and streets be safer?

  73. Sphamandla says:

    i would like to learn the power to say No, and make my self happy first before make someone else.

  74. All of these desires can be fulfilled and they were meant to be fulfilled because the Light is always waiting to come in! I have come to learn by caring and sharing with others my needs are taken care of! For the tools to help you on your journey go to Kabbalah.com. There are simple universal laws to follow to attain fulfillment and happiness. I know, I have found them. Much Light and Love to all of you. It’s out there for the taking!

  75. Marina says:

    Thank you for this website. You expressed people’s essential desires very precisely. I am just confused as to how you help them to get what they want. It’s not clear from your website.

  76. Marina says:

    Sorry, I have to re-post as I didn’t write my website address correctly.
    Marina´s last blog post ..This Confusing Word “Forgiveness”..

  77. shivi says:

    hey guys ol of u knw your problems so dt u ppl got d solution,bt problem of mine is i dont knw wts my problem which is distrubing my life………..
    :)ny ways
    unknwn ppls thnks 4 reading ds god bless u ol

    • Lori says:

      I can really relate to you not feeling like you know what your problem is. I went through the same thing at the beginning of the year and I went to a counsellor. She introduced me to meditation which has seriously helped me so much. Focusing on the present has made my mind less cluttered. Its not difficult if you can be patient and believe in yourself. If you google ‘breathing meditations’ or ‘body scan meditations’ lots of free ones will come up. I hope this will help you the way it helped me, take care :)

  78. annamae says:

    thoughtful readings

  79. XC says:

    Is too dark to say that I want is to find out what I want?
    I read the 71 points and see some that ring a bell (12, 34/35, 59); however they really do not seem like a purpose or something you want… just like being confused.

  80. Rona says:

    Im marriage of 6year unhappy wife leaving alone my husband and i very often to see each other how many times i told my husband i want to be with him but he always tild me so many reason firstly my husband is marriage and have a five children on his first wife he is muslim he told a lie for me and his family not telling the truth of his story behind that he is a marriage man without my knowing now i sacrifice a lot everytime i remember he is mared and have a kids. I love him and i dont want to lose him but telling a lie for me i can accept that cause me unhappy he never told the whole story for me until one day i open his email i saw the birth certificate of his children and his marriage contract i feel empty it seems that all my dreams come true i kept all his secret behind until now to my family but my heart aches until now still remain. I want to be happy and contented too of what ever i have but i feel it not enough and not complete.

  81. Rona says:

    Im marriage of 6year unhappy wife leaving alone my husband and i very often to see each other how many times i told my husband i want to be with him but he always tild me so many reason firstly my husband is marriage and have a five children on his first wife he is muslim he told a lie for me and his family not telling the truth of his story behind that he is a marriage man without my knowing now i sacrifice a lot everytime i remember he is mared and have a kids. I love him and i dont want to lose him but telling a lie for me i can accept that cause me unhappy he never told the whole story for me until one day i open his email i saw the birth certificate of his children and his marriage contract i feel empty it seems that all my dreams had gone away, i kept all his secret behind until now to my family but my heart aches until now still remain. I want to be happy and contented too of what ever i have but i feel it not enough and not complete.

  82. Laura says:

    I Want…
    I want a tattoo. I want a few more holes in my ears. I want to travel the world and I want to wear a dress even if i’m not going anywhere special. I want to walk around barefoot in the grass everyday and night of every summer for the rest of my life. I want to be tall enough to kiss the stars, but small enough to crawl into bed and stay there for days. I want to read tons of books, but I want to stay out late sometimes. I want to make mistakes. I want to spend a whole day speaking another language. I want to write a book that no one will ever read but I want to fill it with everything that I love and cherish. I want to write letters that I will never send and I want to keep them under my bed until I forget about them, I want to start over a few times before I get it right. I want to accept my imperfections. I want to dye my hair crazy colours and paint my nails the colour of the sea. I want to let my self get angry and I want to let myself feel sad. I want to drive around looking for the sole reason that made me want to go for a drive. I want to stand in Central Park and take a picture in my maind that I can keep forever. I want to go back to my hometown and walk around for a whole day by myself thinking back on my childhood. I want to write everything down. I want to live the way I want to.

  83. Will says:

    Happiness.

    Happiness is achieved through balance;
    others, self, and sleep.
    To each devote eight hours a day
    and happiness will come your way.

  84. gatsheni says:

    I now realise that the sun shines for me. if we could open our eyes we would realise that all the questions have already been answered for us

  85. Thomas Hypes says:

    I don’t find happiness in self… too fleeting and too shallow…. I find my joy in the life I have been called to through Jesus Christ…. His mission, His purpose, the only true path…..

    “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” John 14: 6

    “…if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved.” Romans 10: 9-10

    Door is open to all……

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