From Lust to Losing Your Mind: Science Reveals the Secrets of Love – Part 1

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I went totally insane last time I fell in love. I could talk about nothing else. I asked my friends over and over whether they thought that he was attracted to me too, or not. Did that look mean something special? Should I ring him or not? I couldn’t think about anything else. When he didn’t contact me, my mood plummeted. When I saw him,

The Magic of Compassion

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If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we would find in each person’s life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Compassion for our fellow human being is a cornerstone of many the world’s spiritual traditions. It is one of the great transformative human emotions because in showing compassion we transcend he constraints of our self and embrace a broader,

Counting your Blessings: 5 Ways to Increase Happiness

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We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures – Thornton Wilder

 

Gratitude makes us happier. That’s what many spiritual traditions maintain. Now scientific research backs such claims. And that’s what we can easily observe in our own life and that of others.

 

Here’s an example: I recently caught up with a friend of mine,

Science and Meditation: Are Mystics just Having a Brain Wave?

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By Mary Jaksch

Is the brain hardwired for mystical experiences? These and other questions are the focus of a new breed of brain scientists. Before I describe some of their research results, here’s a question for you.

What do you think of the following experience?

I stood in my bathroom ready to go into the shower and realized I could no longer define the boundaries of my body,

7 Strategies for Good Luck


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Some people seem to have all the good luck in the world, whereas others seem to stumble from one misfortune to the next.

How about you? Are you lucky?

Here’s an example of the kind of luck I tend to have: Some years ago I decided to write a book on how to enhance relationships. I made a five year plan of all the steps,

The Secrets of Wellbeing Series – Part 4: Does More Choice Make us Happier?

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Does more choice make us happier?
This is the question that drives Barry Schwartz, professor of psychology at Swarthmore College.

 

For example, yesterday I went to the supermarket to get some olive oil. There wasn’t just one brand. There were many different options: cold pressed, virgin, light, from Italy, from Greece, from New Zealand. In fact, there were over 30 different options for me to choose from. 

Secrets of Wellbeing Series — Part 3: Future happiness? Why we get it so wrong.


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Let’s imagine that you find an ancient lamp, give it a rub – and out pops a genie. “You can wish for three things which will make you happy,” he booms.

What would you wish for?

I’m sure that if I met a genie, I’d make some great choices! You too?

Well, we might both get it wrong.

According to Daniel Gilbert,

What are Your Signature Strengths?


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By Mary Jaksch

Do you find life exhausting and frustrating? Or is it easy and exhilarating? The difference between the two experiences may hinge on something simple: whether or not your life is aligned to your signature strengths.

Signature strengths are the things we like doing and are good at. For example, I love learning; it excites me!

We find more happiness and satisfaction in our life if it is aligned with our signature strengths.

Secrets of Wellbeing Series — Part 1: Authentic Happiness

By Mary Jaksch

This is the first of a seven-part series on the Secrets of Wellbeing. The reason I’m launching into this series is because I’m excited about what is happening in the field of psychology and how new research supports ancient teachings.

A new direction called Positive Psychology has started to take centre stage. Instead of looking at problems and how to fix them, Positive Psychology investigates what allows us to experience life at its best.

Do You Have to Crawl Throught the Desert to get Enlightened?


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A Zen student asked me recently, “Why does it take so long attain enlightenment? Do we have to crawl through the desert to get there?”

The problem of ‘attaining’

If you think of attaining something, the world breaks into two: on one side is the person who is striving to attain something, and on the other is the object that he or she is striving for.