How to Make a True Friend (Worth More Than 14.6 Cents)


By Mary Jaksch

A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.
~ Arabian Proverb

Maybe you thought that friendship can’t be bought. Wrong. You can buy 3000 Facebook friends for only 14,6 cents a piece from Twitter friends are even cheaper. You can aquire them in bulk: 25,000 Twitter friends only cost 3,4 cents each!
Making new friends seems easy these days: you can buy them, or ‘friend’ people at the click of a button.

But is that really making friends – in the true sense of the word?

What is a true friend?

True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation.
~ George Washington

I once heard Zen Master John Tarrant say something unforgettable about friendship. He said, “If you have a true friend, one of you will sit at the other’s deathbed.” That puts things into perspective, doesn’t it? I can’t quite see my 2000 Twitter followers crowding around my bed in the Intensive Care Unit during my final days!

What John Tarrant reminds us of, is that true friendships are long-term connections that flow through our life like rivers.
I remember some beautiful moments of friendship when my mother, Joan Jaksch, died. I was with her as she passed away and immediately rang up my son Sebastian and three of my friends. They came at once and we all sat around my mother’s bed, holding hands and shedding tears.

A few days later, Sebastian and I celebrated my mother’s life with a funeral service held in our lounge (which doubles as a meditation room). My mother’s cat, Sweetie,  lay curled up on her legs in the open coffin. Friends gathered, and we sat on the floor around the coffin, telling hilarious stories about my mother’s eccentric ways,  until we could no longer tell the tears of laughter from the tears of grief. Then one of my best friends – my ex-husband Uwe Grodd – played a haunting solo on his flute.
That’s true friendship.

Friends are the family of the soul

Fate chooses your relations, you choose your friends.
~ Jacques Delille (1738 – 1813)

We are born into particular families. Some of us are lucky because we were raised in happy, loving families. Others grow up in abusive families and carry the scars all their lives. However, whatever family we were raised in, we are free to create our own family. These family ties can be by blood or by affection. Or by both.

If you have children you will know that blood relation doesn’t guarantee close emotional ties. It’s a sad fact that many adult children leave home and then sever all ties to their family. That’s because they lack the bond of love and affection that is strong enough to last throughout life. I’m fortunate because my son Sebastian is one of my cherished friends.


Ten Ways to Create Lasting Friendships

1. Be caring

Ask not what a friend can do for you. Ask what you can do for a friend.

The two cornerstones of friendship are kindness – and care.
Here’s a lovely story by Father Theophane about the spiritual value of kindness and caring:

There’s a monk there who will never give you advice, but only a question. I was told his questions could be very helpful. I sought him out.

“I am a parish priest,” I said. “I’m here on retreat. Could you give me a question?

“Ah, yes,” he answered. “My question is: ‘What do they need?”

I came away disappointed. I spent a few hours with the question, writing down answers, but finally I went back to him.

“Excuse me. Perhaps I didn’t make myself clear. Your question has been helpful, but I wasn’t so much interested in thinking about my parish during this retreat. Rather I wanted to think seriously about my own spiritual life. Could you give a question for my own spiritual life?”

“Ah, I see, the monk said. ” The question is, ‘What do they really need?'”


In order to care for another person, we need to walk in their shoes, and consider what we could do to make life easier for them. Then do it.

2. Be there in misfortune

“Misfortune shows those who are not really friends.”
– Aristotle

I once went through a dismal patch in my life when I was forced to leave a high-profile job as a Director of a school of music – just as my husband Uwe and I were going through a divorce. The day after I left my job, I lost 80% of all the people whom I regarded as friends. That was a shock, as you can imagine. It turned out they were only hanging out with me because I was well-known.

Strangely enough though, I then discovered that there was a small group of people lurking in the background of my life who were waiting to become friends with me. One of them was Birgit (who is like a sister to me now). I asked her:

“Why did you guys wait all this time before letting me know that you wanted to be friends?
“Oh,” she said, “we were waiting for you to come down to earth and stop being up yourself!”

(In New Zealand, ‘up yourself’ means to be arrogant…)

3. Delight at success and share joy

“Anybody can sympathise with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathise with a friend’s success.”
– Oscar Wilde

One of the greatest compliments I’ve received was when a friend told me, “You’re the only person with whom I can share my success without reservation. I can tell you all about how well I did – and know that you’ll celebrate with me!”

4. Always Encourage

When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.
~ William Arthur Ward

We can often spot a friend’s potential better than they can. Our task as a friend is to encourage, encourage, encourage. (Yes, I know I wrote that three times…) So often talent withers because there is nobody to encourage it. Let your friends know how wonderful they are – again and again.

5. Be Respectful

In our society respect is linked to hierarchy. You are expected to be respectful to those ‘above’ you, but nobody cares if you treat those you consider ‘below’ you with familiarity or even distain. Well, that doesn’t work for making friends! How about treating everyone with respect?

I’m always saddened when children and young adults are treated disrespectfully – even though being young is a passing human condition, and children can grow into life-long friends. If you want to be friends with a child or an adolescent, listen to what they have to say. Be interested in what they do. Treat them like the interesting human beings they are.

6. Be honest

A true friend stabs you in the front.
~ Oscar Wilde

I love this saying by Oscar Wilde! As a good friend it’s our duty to lovingly and patiently tell the other if we think he or she is going wrong. If a friend does that to you and you feel defensive, ask yourself, “What is the grain of truth in what they’ve said?”

7. Listen

Friends listen to what you say. Best friends listen to what you don’t say.

Listening to a friends is what deepens friendship. I know it’s difficult at times because you may be preoccupied at the time, or feel the pressure of concerns you want to get off our chest. Here’s a remedy: as well as listening to your friend, open to other sounds around you – the roar of traffic, the twitter of birds, or the splish of raindrops falling against the window. This keeps you in the present moment.

8. Repair rifts

It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend. ~William Blake

Do you sometimes mourn a good friend whom you’ve lost through a quarrel? That’s what the quote by Blake is about. When we love – and friendship is a form of love – we open our heart to sorrow, as well as to joy. Make sure you reach out and let the other person know that you still want to be friends. Do it sooner than later.

Sometimes we feel betrayed or ill-used  by a friend. That’s a difficult situation. What I try to do in those moments is to remind myself about all of the good aspects of that friendship, so that I can move towards forgiveness.

9. Be trustworthy

If you want to create lasting friendships, you need to be trustworthy. Really, that goes without saying. But it’s good to remind ourselves of this over and over. To be trustworthy means to keep confidences, not to denigrate a friend behind his or her back, to keep promises, to protect our friends, instead of taking advantage of them.

10.  Accept despair

The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.
~ Henri Nouwen

At times there is absolutely nothing we can do to help a friend and we feel helpless. We can’t see a way forward and despair because there seems nothing we can do to help. But actually there is. We can give the most precious gift of all: our full presence. Hold your friend’s hand, listen to their despair. Or, if you are a distance, hold them in your heart with loving thoughts.


To be a good friend is a skill that grows with practice. I hope the ten rules above help you to become a good friend, or remind you of some important aspects of friendship. Most of all – let each friendship light up your life in a unique way.

What is the value of a true friend?
14.6 cents – or priceless?

I wonder, what is your experience of friendship? Maybe you can see something I’ve forgotten in my list? Please share your thoughts in a comment.

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  1. Dave Roach says:

    The Russians have two words for friend – tovarich and droog. The difference was explained thus:
    A tovarich will drink with you.
    A droog will hide you from the KGB

  2. “If you have a true friend, one of you will sit at the other’s deathbed.”

    That line is extremely touching it reminds me of a line from an Iron and Wine song that goes “one of us will bury the other in the garden”
    .-= Faramarz – Anxious Candy´s last blog ..2 Ways To Diminish Your Anxiety and Boost Your Power. =-.

  3. Maybe stating very simply – true friendship is just caring for the other person and his well being. That is all. Nothing else….

    Your post made me – think – whom do I really care for in all the world?…

    Your post touched something deep down…

    Thank you.
    .-= Meghashyam Chirravoori´s last blog ..Sep 16, Breaking the Routine, Doing Something New and Feeling Good About It =-.

  4. @Dave
    That’s an interesting distinction. A droog would be true friend indeed.

  5. @Faramarz
    Yes – I agree. John Tarrant’s description friendship has stayed with me. It lets you see at a glance who your close friends are.

  6. Friends are priceless. I was kinda taken aback with the title… until I read on and understood the full story behind that 14.6 cents thing.

    I’m meeting my friends later for supper. 🙂
    .-= Daniel Richard´s last blog ..0HWW: The ZERO Hour Work Week =-.

  7. @Daniel
    Yes, buying ‘friends’ in bulk is a new concept Quite funny – for anyone who has real friends!

  8. A very touching article. A true friend stands the test of time, no matter what mistakes are made along the way.

    During the hardships in my life there has been one common theme…my friends have been there and I feel blessed. I am grateful. Being there (for better or worse) binds all of the mentioned traits together.
    .-= simply stephen´s last blog ..The Power of Pears: Simple Living Personified =-.

  9. @Simple Stephen
    “Being there (for better or worse)” I like that!

  10. janice says:

    This is one of your best yet, Mary – truly inspiring, from the quotes to the tips!

    Because of the internet, I have many treasured friends I’ve never even met and because of the travelling my husband and I did, we have friends scattered across Europe. They probably won’t be at my death bed when the day comes, but because we love in spirit, I know they’ll be there, nevertheless, as I will for them.
    .-= janice´s last blog ..Life Laundry…revisited =-.

  11. @Janice
    Thanks for your kind words.

    I agree with about friends on the Net. That’s been one of the wonderful surprises about becoming a blogger: I’ve made some wonderful friends – even though we’ve never met up in the flesh.

  12. This is an exquisite post, Mary. I appreciate all the care and attention you gave to writing it and finding such perfect quotes.

    I’m sending a link to my friends and to those I hope to become friends.
    .-= Mahala Mazerov´s last blog ..The Bowl of Stars – A Guided Meditation =-.

  13. When I was about 5 I had someone tell me that they weren’t my friend anymore. My dad sat me down and told me that it is blessed man that has even one true friend in life. I made an oath that day that I would always try to be a true friend to whoever needed one. I agree full heartedly with everything you have listed here. If only I was better at keeping up with people.
    .-= Justin-´s last blog ..Why Your Dreams Matter =-.

  14. I read your post upon waking this morning from thoughts of my distressed friendship with a dear friend.

    Going into business together has put strain on the roots of our relationship because of all the money talk and biz transactions we’ve been with the past 2 years.

    I’ve been harsh to him and need to apologize and that’s exactly what I did just now after contemplating the thoughts in your writings.

    Great post, indeed.
    .-= Pete | The Tango Notebook´s last blog ..Stop Him Before He Ruins Your Tango =-.

  15. Annaly says:

    Love your definition of friendship.

  16. Wow. What a great article on friendship. Just yesterday I just trying to articulate to my 20-year-old niece the tenets of real friendship. This is tough for young adults because they don’t have the benefit of that “slow growth” that lasting friendship takes.

    Your post sums up everything I was trying to explain and more. Thanks for writing it.
    .-= Miche | Serenity Hacker´s last blog ..An Easy-to-Remember Strategy to Prevent Burnout =-.

  17. Chriso says:

    Thanks for your post Mary. In the late 1920’s Jimmy Rodgers sang – “The old pals are always the best you see. New ones you can find everyday.
    But they’ll never take the places or ever be, like the old pals of yesterday.”
    Its one of my favorite songs of Jimmy’s, called My Old Pal.

  18. Mary, you have outdone yourself!!!

    This to me is your best post so far on GoodLife Zen:-)

    I like the point about never looking down on anyone.

    I once read somewhere that the only time you should look down on anyone is when you are helping them up.

    So often in our daily life we just blank out all those people who make our life so convenients such as supermarket assistants, bus drivers and post man.

    I have learnt that it takes so little to befriend people in an authentic, deeper way.

    Social media friends will come and go – and yet at the same time, some of my facebook virtual “friends” have become friends also in the real world sense.

    Keep up the great writing and can’t wait for more.
    .-= Arvind Devalia´s last blog ..Why No Pain, No Gain is a Myth! =-.

  19. Wow – I’m quite overwhelmed by your kind words, everyone.
    It’s quite weird: with this post I seem to have suddenly found my voice.

    I put it down to the inspiration I’ve got from working with Leo Babauta (of Zen Habits fame) in the A-List Blogging Bootcamp.

    Being inspired by someone is a strange thing. It’s not like they just light your candle. Sometimes they light a fuse – and then your fireworks begin!

    I’m grateful to you, my readers. It’s wonderful that you are there – steadfast and encouraging.

  20. Anastasiya says:

    That’s a brilliant article, Mary. I savored every word of it because every word and every sentence sounded so deep and profound.
    I think about friendship a lot now. A year ago I moved to the United States from Ukraine and all my friends and my family stayed there of course. The only true friend I have here is my husband and I am very grateful to the Lord for giving me such a wonderful partner in life. However, I still miss my friends in Ukraine. This long distance has shown who are real friends and who are just people walking by. I was disappointed to find out that some of my best friends started vanishing from my life after my life changed. There is nothing in common between us any more. I was fortunate to find out that some people who seemed not very close at first actually support me and want to be my close friends, in spite of the distance.
    I understand that now is the time for me to start finding new friends here, in the United States. But finding a good friends is not an easy task that is why I highly value and cherish every person in my life who has proved to be my friend in the past.
    .-= Anastasiya´s last blog ..Step out of Your Shell: Practical Tips to Become a Better Conversationalist =-.

  21. Karen Putz says:

    Great post– it reminds me of a saying that I came across recently: “True friends will stab you in the front.” At first, I couldn’t agree with that, but when I think of the friends in my life that I appreciate most–those are the ones who can tell it to me like it really is, instead of telling me some fluff that I want to hear.

    I enjoyed reading this!
    .-= Karen Putz´s last blog ..What I Learned from Laughter: Laughing at the Small Stuff =-.

  22. Patrick says:

    Mary, what a great post of deep understanding. When I think about true friendship, I only think about a handful of people, that I can share my deepest feelings with. Whatever is only on social medias like twitter actually should have another name for it like media acquaintances or so, but a true friend is definitely very different from what you get (and can buy) these day. Great post.

  23. Hi Mary, I can so relate to your story of when you left the high profile job. I discovered my true friends too after an unexpected and very sad divorce. My true friends (and family for that matter), very quickly stepped up. I will forever be grateful for their love and support.

    Thanks for the reminder of how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.
    .-= Sami – Life, Laughs & Lemmings´s last blog ..Kick Arse Question – Living Like You Mean It =-.

  24. Raewyn says:

    Gassho Sensei

    Although its been some years, I still remember your talk about being the lighthouse on the rock. I think this article has helped me recall that lesson and now its a good time to revisit it. Thank You.

  25. Thank you thank you thank you! – This is an amazing and thorough analysis of a very important subject in today’s social constructs!

  26. Dave Roach says:

    “The friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you.” Elbert Hubbard
    My closest friends I have known for 30 years or more. As one of them put it, if we were meet each other’s earlier selves today then the chances are we would not like each other. I think it is a wondrous thing to change together with somebody through life (which is also an argument for monogamy).

  27. Madeleine says:

    Mary, This was a wonderful and sensitive post. It’s true that real friends bring so much to our lives. I was particularly struck by the Oscar Wilde quote. How sad that some people let jealousy keep them from being able to celebrate the success of a friend.

    I also found your points about encouraging friends and listening to them so important. These things seem so simple yet all too rare.
    .-= Madeleine´s last blog ..How to Get Help When You Need It =-.

  28. Cheryl McLaughlin says:

    Hi Mary,
    I’m savoring this post. The quotes about friendship, particularly John Tarrant’s, made me pause and reflect…yes, at your deathbed. Your personal story made me nod and smile, for I’ve been there.
    I learned a lot about the friendship of women when my mother passed away suddenly at the age of 53. It was my mother’s women friends who knew what to do when I didn’t, who put together the entire memorial service when I couldn’t, who allowed me to connect with them when I could – how I could – when my life, and my place in the Universe were changed forever in an instant.
    Keep up the good work. I look forward to reading more.

  29. Outstanding post! Very well said how we can make true friends and retain them for life. Bringing greater sincerity in our life and relationships is the key to happiness, mutual trust and lasting friendship.
    .-= Vijay – Meditation Techniques Guide´s last blog ..Related Links & Resources =-.

  30. Terry says:

    Beautiful post. Thank you. I am just now learning how to make friends. Usually people sought me out but now I am doing that myself. Your post is quite helpful. When my precious friend of 40 years died, I felt such despair that I would never again have a friend for that long. I realized that the best way to honor our friendship is to go out and make friends and not worry about length but rather to enjoy depth.

  31. Eugenia says:

    thank you for the post. Enjoyed reading it. Will be back again!
    .-= Eugenia´s last blog ..PSYCOLOGY =-.

  32. Hey Mary, thank you for this post, really. It puts some things in perspective. I’ve had some querrels with friends, and recently felt like it was time to reconnect, and it is so true that it is harder to forgive our friends than to forgive our ennemies. We expect so much more from them. Sometimes you have to let go and just let the heart speak.
    On the other hand, you also have to be able to realize who you friends really are, and as you mature and change, you see some of them can’t accompany you on your journey, can’t share your successes or way of life. This is sometimes sad, but it is also a blessing to have enjoyed their friendship.
    Thank you again
    .-= Sylvain OBEGI´s last blog ..Step out of your boring life =-.

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  38. Kat says:

    I thoroughly enjoyed your article. I’m almost 50 and have been wondering how to make new friends. Is it truly possible at this age? I returned to my home town a year ago and haven’t reconnected with any one on going. I don’t have the energy I did at 20 something to go out frequently to meet people. I’ve joined different groups and I suppose patience is a quality I lack in abundance. I’m still a kid inside who wants to show up to the play ground, start playing and have fun. And yes I do – but it doesn’t seem to last more than a time or two. I’ll read it again and see if I can try on some new behaviors? Any one want to play tag?

  39. amit arora says:

    most beautiful article ever read about friendship…….

    Anybody can sympathise with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathise with a friend’s success

    i like it most as i havn’t got such friends……

  40. Gr8fulAnnie says:


    I am moved by your writing, as usual. So many of the quotes and your points felt like the path a special friend have followed over the years.

    We’ve hit some very rough patches over the 20+ years we’ve known each other. Most recently, he suffered a stroke at his home, 1000 miles away from mine. Because of finances and his medical treatment, I couldn’t just jump on a plane and be there to hold his hand and reassure him our friendship was intact, regardless of if or what he recovered after the stroke. And I found that when he was drugged up, he kept calling my name.

    It wasn’t the fear of loss that I felt. It was the fear that he’d feel even more scared at facing all he’d lost to the stroke and had to work at regaining. My simple fear of not being there to see and support him, matching his fear of not seeing me by his side, needing my hand to hold in support.

    We have each now set up a “friend in need” fund so that if any crisis should befall one, the other has airfare and expenses to just pick up and go.

    He is a blessing for me, and every day I send gratitude to All That Is for such a gift.

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  43. Gaye says:

    My best friend, my mother, died two months ago today. It’s hard not having her around to understand, just by looking at me, how I am feeling and how to support me wordlessly.

    Now I need new friends. Some people who have been in my life are coming forward as my new best friends, and your post describes them beautifully.

    I especially like the quote: A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away. I just sent it to one of my friends, because that is exactly how she is as a friend.

    Thank you for this post.
    .-= Gaye´s last blog ..Paralysed by fear? How to overcome it. =-.

  44. lynette says:

    i lost my best friend and have felt so lost ever since.

  45. I recently heard that the average person , living in the modern world, has half as many true friends today than they would have 50 years ago.
    .-= Tim (MiniLifeHacks)´s last blog ..Take a Detour- Get a New Perspective =-.

    • Brenda says:

      Oh Tim…..that has to be true. I really think most people today don’t know what it means to be a true friend………an authentic friend. It is something that evades me. Even though I am close to my husband and children, friendships never last. I have a feeling people in the past had better social skills.

  46. mark says:

    what can you to be maro open thosse fell?

  47. Silversurfer says:

    In today’s world where people have developed an addiction to competitive friend collecting, I am reminded by your post of what true friends are and how rare and special they are. Thanks for the insightful post and I’ll try to impart this wisdom to my young nieces and nephew who are too busy collecting to take stock.

    Often, sadly, one learns about true friendship by experiencing adversity and it’s then that you find out who those your real friends are – it’s often not who you think. But I keep returning to the sage wisdom of my grandfather who said “to find a good friend, be a good friend.”

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  49. yoyo says:

    This post is very interesting …
    I am very impressed with the quote from Anonymous.
    ” Ask not what a friend can do for you. Ask what you can do for a friend” .
    The expression of affection and attention to a friend without expecting to return. Giving a lesson to us to better serve and serve more seriously.
    Although at present it is very difficult, not infrequently we always hoped would return after we give something or when we help a friend.
    But with that quote, we will be more motivated to become good friends.
    thank you ……………..

  50. chloe says:

    Making friends is easy but making a true friend is really need a lot of time, it took us quite a lot of time for us to know which one is true friend and which friend is only taking advantage from us. Thanks for writing such a good article!
    .-= chloe´s last blog ..Mathematics Daily Quiz Question 6 =-.

  51. I thought friendship is priceless, which means no price could buy it but it is definitely important and everyone needs it. I am aware that friends on social networking sites could be bought for few dollars but I wasn’t so sure if it is real friends or true followers on Twitter. But I get your point. And thanks for the interesting tips on how to be a good friend.


  52. Hello says:

    Hello, what if you’re never had any true friends? I was pondering this fact and as a result, came to this blog. Aside from one very special family member, I’ve never had any true friends. The individuals I grew up around did not keep secrets, were not understanding and I believe this shaped how I view relationships. Is anyone in my shoes?

  53. Hello says:

    “What if *you’ve* never had any true friends?” Sorry, I’m just correcting a mistake.

  54. Indeed friends are a light on your path and they hold your hands when it it is dark,i was lucky enough to get some true friends and learned a lot from them from leadership lessons to building great relations i wanted to share them here have a look
    and once again thank you for this post

  55. IyagiDad says:

    I actually believe this is such an important skill and principle to instill in children. It’s deep but lasts a life-time.

    The question though is: how do you decide whom to invest so much into as a friend?

    I’m trying to help shape a future generation by creating books that illustrate principles like this — I can use these as dramatic turning points, thanks!
    IyagiDad´s last blog post ..How to Talk to Your Child about People vs. Possessions

  56. Good friends indeed are only found over time.

    I’ve had the joy of having been sought out as a friend and I believe it is due generally to two reasons.
    •I have the gift of listening
    •I have an incredible need to do what I say I’m going to do (long story there but it’s turned out to be one of my good qualities)

    Trust is huge in building friendships.

    Wonderful list to aspire to. Mahalo Mary.
    Jt Clough | Big Island Dog´s last blog post ..You Are Here for a Reason

  57. Kerry says:

    The really true friend is most important in the life.

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  59. Mariaan Jacobs says:

    Thank you for summing friendship up so beautifully, I had a really bad childhood and due to social phobia I am struggling to make a true friend, my heart really yearns for someone to call my friend, I now have a good life, good husband and cutest son and am truelly happy in that aspect, I feel I need people to share my happiness with, but how to overcome my debilitating shyness??? If someone has any suggestions please help.


  60. maya says:

    thanks for the great things you said about friendship now its so clear. 🙂

  61. Karen says:

    I am not the most likable person in the world, but I can proudly say that I’ve found myself the best kind of friends. They’re not just there for me during the good times, but in awful times as well. I agree that there are not too many of them, but my 4 bffs are all I need to keep me real.

  62. M Zeeshan says:

    Till now i have no good friends.I don,t no what should i do to make a good friend
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  63. Wilton Chu says:

    I know I am not perfect and I have my flaws, but I am just so glad God blessed me with so loving friends. There are a few of them but I consider them a part of my family which has been with me through good and bad times.

  64. Friends are priceless. Do not forget this. Good friends never leave you alone, they stand by you, listen to you and help you get over all of your problems.

    Thanks for great post, Mary! Hope you always have wonderful article like this for us.🙂
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