Are you a slave to your to-do list?
Maybe your focus is on getting things done and you feel good about the check marks you’re racking up.
Maybe you think it doesn’t matter what each item is or how you feel about what you’re doing because all that matters is working the list.
If you work with to-do lists in this way, getting things done can feel like an up-hill battle.
Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. – Natalie Goldberg
Have you ever seen a 9-year-old boy throwing knives at his baby sister?
Strangely, I have.
Now, once you’ve had a justifiable rant about ‘kids shouldn’t throw knives’, especially at cute little girls, sister or not, here’s what I noticed…
The little girl wasn’t stressed at all.
It’s frustrating, no?
You can’t seem to figure out how to become productive.
At the same time, the reason is simple:
You overthink things.
You feel stressed and anxious every time you have to make even the smallest decision. Big life decisions feel unfathomable. You’re left spinning your wheels while you know that decisiveness would help you unlock your potential.
In our digital age,
You had something to say, but as usual, nobody listened.
It’s irritating, right?
They seemed to write you off the second you opened your mouth. Worse than that, they barely even acknowledged you were there.
And it happens every time.
You know you have great ideas and opinions worth listening to, but nobody ever seems to take you seriously. So half the time you don’t even bother speaking up any longer,
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. – Epicurus
“Do you want some more?”
Seems a dumb question, doesn’t it?
The answer is of course, it depends what the ‘more’ is. More of what, exactly?
Of course you’d enjoy more money to buy more cool stuff,
Holiday stressors can ruin the festive season for you.
The holidays offer precious time to enjoy food, time off, and people we love.
But the magic of the season can turn to stress when we find ourselves around the person we avoid all year long, or panicking over gifts, or with our digestion in a funk from too many cookies and cocktails.
Use these tips to overcome holiday stressors and enjoy the festive season.
Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be. – Abraham Lincoln
How happy do you feel every day?
It probably depends. It’s not like it’s a predetermined state of mind, right?
Or is it?
I used to fall into a happy state and just as quickly fall out almost every day. My state of happiness was as delicate as a butterfly and just as susceptible to the slightest breeze.
It happened again.
You tried to stop yourself. You wish you hadn’t said it. And, yet, despite all your best efforts, you lost it once again.
You know better. You know you should be more “spiritual” and not allow others to push your buttons or disturb your peace. But whenever it happens you are powerless. You just explode.
It’s a vicious cycle and you feel like a failure.
Whenever you are confronted with an opponent. Conquer him with love.
– Mahatma Gandhi
In frustration, in anger, you ask . . .
Why? Why did that person spread lies about you behind your back, vilify you, or even mock you to your face?
Surely they had no reason when you obviously never meant to antagonize them (and honestly can’t even figure out what you did to provoke them).
We live in a maze of thoughts, media, culture, people, noise, words, screens, air, and confusion.
Through our lives, we’re expected to move through these experiences and derive meaning from them.
We’re supposed to figure out our lives.
We’re supposed to have it all together.
But we don’t. We fail.
We’re not perfect people – we weren’t born with the ability to do things right on the first try.