A guest post by Henri Junttila of Wake Up Cloud.
We all go through tough times that frustrate, anger, and depress us. Some people seem to cope with these times better than others. Why is that?
I’ve worked for myself my whole adult life, which has allowed me to get very good at dealing with challenges, overwhelm, and the other obstacles we all bump into over and over again.
Now, I still go through these periods, and I still feel bad. But by using the seven ways below on getting through tough times, I have learned to significantly reduce the amount of time that I spend hiding in bed with a big bowl of ice cream.
I believe that all the challenges we face are sent to us for a reason.
With all that said, let’s look at the seven ways that will help you thrive in tough times.
“Happiness can exist only in acceptance.” ~George Orwell
The first is acceptance. Whenever I start feeling bad, I try to resist the feeling, which tends to make everything that much worse.
It’s not until I completely accept my situation that I can start changing it. Acceptance allows me to focus on the positive and start taking action.
It can be as simple as taking responsibility for your life. In the end, you are responsible for what happens in your life, whether you like it or not.
When I first realized this, I was able to start taking control of my life and start changing what I didn’t like. The negativity was just a way for me to learn what I didn’t want.
2. What’s the Worst That Could Happen?
“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.” ~Michael Jordan
Whenever I write down the problems that I have, it’s much easier for me to solve them and let them go.
This is especially true for writing down what the worst that could happen is. If you can accept the worst, the emotional charge of your problem will vanish.
This can be as simple as writing down your problem with the worst that could happen alongside it, much like a pro’s and con’s list.
If you don’t think you can accept the worst, you should reconsider if you really want to go down that path. Follow your heart and intuition.
3. Focus on the Positive
“Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event.” ~Brian Tracy
I always look for the blessing in disguise in every problem I come across. I have realized that almost every problem in my life has carried a vital lesson inside it.
And those that haven’t have not yet blossomed into positivity. Give your challenges, problems, and fears time and they will surprise you.
Besides, how can I be sure that the challenges I am going through are not exactly what I need right now to become a better human being?
We cannot predict the future, at least not yet, so it’s impossible to know whether the challenges you go through today are good or bad.
4. Release Negativity
“Always turn a negative situation into a positive situation.” ~Michael Jordan
Your thoughts and stories create your reality.
The thoughts we think, and the stories we tell ourselves about the events we experience determine how we feel.
There is always a thought behind every feeling. There are some great tools out there that can help you release negativity during tough times.
They are all designed to bring peace of mind into your life. I suggest you listen to your intuition and start with one of them.
I especially like Emotional Freedom Techniques, because it costs nothing to learn, and is very easy to incorporate into your life.
5. Set S.M.A.R.T Goals
“A goal properly set is halfway reached.” ~Abraham Lincoln
I used to shun goal setting, but I have discovered that when I set proper goals, I feel more clear and inspired to take action.
When you set goals, you tell your subconscious mind where you want to go. Your subconscious then goes to work on making that happen.
If I’m going through tough times, I look at what it is that I do not want, and use that as ammunition for creating a positive and inspiring goal.
Instead of dwelling on the negative, I flip it over and think about what I do want in my life.
Effective goals are specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and timely. This is the S.M.A.R.T criteria for goals, and is highly effective.
And remember, if you don’t set goals, you’re probably heading towards a life you don’t want.
6. Untangle Your Mind
“Happiness is not a reward – it is a consequence. Suffering is not a punishment – it is a result.” ~Robert Ingersoll
Talk to someone who can help. This may or may not be your friends. You may want to get in touch with a life coach or someone who knows how to deal with your specific situation.
Something that always helps me is to talk to someone who is good at listening and bringing clarity into my situation.
What’s important is that you find someone who can bring peace of mind to the situation you are going through.
I have found that working with someone else on my own problems is much more powerful than working on them on my own.
There’s something about my mind, and probably with yours too, that gets in the way when I try to solve my own problems, especially if they are deeply ingrained negative beliefs.
7. Follow Your Passion
“Follow your passion, and success will follow you.” ~Terri Guillemets
I’ve read over and over again that the people that are the most happiest are those that follow their passion and their hearts deepest desire.
It wasn’t until I started following my passion that I was able to dramatically reduce the negativity in my life.
It almost seems like the negativity was there to nudge me in the right direction. Ask yourself what the negative moments in your life are trying to tell you.
Finding my passion has given me a sense of purpose in life, which in turn has made me more resilient to setbacks, obstacles, and fears.
We all have something that we are passionate and excited about. You are on this planet for a reason. You have something to contribute to the world. It’s your job to find your purpose and make the world a better place.
Whenever you’re going through tough times, know that it is for a reason, and the only thing you have to do is find the reason why.
Henri writes at Wake Up Cloud, where you can get his free course: Find Your Passion in 5 Days or Less. And if you liked this article, you will enjoy one of his top articles: 33 Powerful Ways of Overcoming Fear.