Do you find yourself frustrated that you’re not further along than you are at the end of the day – or the week – or the month – or even so far in your life?
Have you set amazing goals for yourself that just never came to fruition?
When you fall short of a goal that is important to you, it weighs heavy on you like a big, wet blanket, doesn’t it? You feel like you let yourself down.
It’s important to realize that we’ve all been there at one time or another. You’re not the only one who feels this way and it certainly doesn’t make you a failure.
What if I told you that the problem isn’t necessarily you, your ability, or your performance?
It’s a Matter of Perspective
The real problem could very well be your perspective.
You see, most of us set ourselves up for this feeling of failure by the way we set and pursue goals.
Something about the modern psyche has us all believing that we need to conquer the world and surpass even our most ambitious goals in one fell swoop. And that, frankly, is crazy talk.
As the achievement-driven species that we are, we are notoriously bad at goal perspective. Let me explain.
Let’s say my goal is to lose 70 pounds. While that is a completely attainable and admirable goal – thinking that I could pull it off easily, or without sacrifice, or in a month is…
Anyone?
Right! More crazy talk.
For whatever reason, we tend to focus on our goals with long-term vision but short-term expectations.
So we wind up subconsciously anticipating long-term level results right now. Sounds like a recipe for disaster, doesn’t it? If nothing else, it’s a great way to set yourself up for failure and all the negative emotions that accompany it.
Make It Micro
One way of keeping yourself from falling into that trap is to begin picturing your big, ultimate goal as a backdrop while you operate from a what I call a micro perspective. It makes progress feel more achievable and the ultimate goal look less overwhelming.
A micro perspective (small or close up perspective) means that while you are ultimately striving for something bigger way out there on the horizon, you keep most of your focus on the smaller details that are presently in front of you.
Here are five tips that I have found useful in developing a micro perspective.
1: Banish Impatience
I’m not going to snow you. This is a tough one. Realize that your goals are something significant. And just like anything else in the natural world, significant doesn’t move quickly – even if you’re standing next to it yelling, “NOW, NOW, NOW!” You can’t make a tree or a mountain or even a person come to maturity by being impatient. Your goals are no different. Realize that they need time to become significant.
2: “Chunk” It
One of my heroes, Zig Zigalr, lost 37 pounds in the 1970’s and kept it off for the rest of his life by chunking it. (My words, not his) Zig figured out that by making very modest changes in his lifestyle he could lose all his extra weight by losing 1.5 ounces (or some such tiny number) each day over the course of two years. The point is – if you pay attention to the little things, you can achieve huge feats in little tiny chunks. Look at your goals in terms of tiny little chunks and they become much easier to conquer. Zig made his weight loss goal sustainable by focusing on that one tiny detail of 1.5 ounces each day.
3: Separate Long And Short Term Goals
Once you set your ambitious, lofty goal – take some time to set smaller, related goals. What if your goal was to run a marathon and you’ve never run before? That’s going to take some time to achieve. So set various smaller goals so you can see the progress along the way. Maybe you could say, “Tomorrow, I’m going to run an extra half mile.” Or maybe, “Within two weeks I will run 2 miles without walking.” Set and re-set new smaller goals as you progress – and appreciate the fact that they are slowly but surely carrying you toward the attainment of your ultimate goal.
4: Celebrate Your Wins.
You need to appreciate the ride between here and there. So when you achieve those smaller goals, make sure you give yourself a pat on the back and celebrate the win. Remember that small wins are still wins. Give yourself some credit and then keep moving forward.
Feel The Momentum
This one is a bonus – meaning it’s a natural byproduct of the other tips. I list it because as it begins to happen, you should be aware of it and appreciate the process. When you take little chunks out of your goal and set smaller attainable goals along the way – something really cool starts to happen. You create momentum. When you see all those little things going right, you can literally feel yourself being pulled in a positive direction. (For more on creating momentum and forming a new perspective on achievement, here is a Free Gift I would like to offer to Goodlife Zen readers with my compliments.)
5: Slow Down And Appreciate Your Progress
Even when you’re not as far along the path as you hoped, the important thing is that you are moving down the path. Take the time to pause and look back from your current perspective and appreciate where you started from. It’s like looking back down a big hill halfway through a long, strenuous hike. While you know you aren’t yet finished, looking back gives you a sense of pride in how far you have come.
Enjoy The Ride
Achieving great things doesn’t have to be stressful. Don’t let the fact that you have big, significant goals hold you back from pursuing your ambitions. Savor the trip and remember…
It’s not all about crossing things off a list. It’s also about enjoying the ride and growing as a person.
So What About You?
Do you sometimes get overwhelmed by long-term goals?
How do you tackle big projects or goals?
Share your views in the comments!
Gary Korisko (@RebootAuthentic) writes about business strategy, content marketing, and integrity selling on his blog Reboot Authentic. He is also giving away FREE Airfare within the Continental USA for one lucky reader to get something amazing done for their business.





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I’m sure you’ll all enjoy Gary’s post as much as I do. He’s got a fantastic free Ebook you might want to download. It’s electrifying. Click on the title to get it: How to Alienate All the Right People
Thank you, Mary.
For having me here on Goodlife Zen – and for the nice comment about the eBook! Very kind of you on both fronts.
Gary-
I’m trying to figure out what you’ve been putting in your breakfast cereal lately. You seem to be on fire with your writing- to mix a metaphor or three, really hitting on all cylinders, pushing the right buttons.
I like this post because it encourages me to work on my goals- weight loss, restarting (again!) my blog, rebooting my thinking in how I help my customers. As you said, goals can be scary- “What if I set this goal and fail…yet again?” Baby steps…I could learn a lot from my granddaughter who’s learning to walk.
Thanks for the post- now, where’s my goal-setting journal?
-Randy
Randy!
Thanks very much for the compliments. I might be on kind of a roll lately
Good to see you here!
And good luck “chunking” all those goals. You’ll get there!
Hi Gary,
Great post! I love the story about Zig’s chunking strategy.
I’ve found breaking things down into a micro/achievable level, then monitoring things at a macro level to stay on track is an amazing combination.
Have a great day!
Kyle
That’s a great way of putting it Kyle. I’m glad you shared that.
Thanks!
Hey Randy!
I don’t know how I missed your comment. Sorry! Thanks for following me over here to Goodlife Zen – and I’m glad you enjoyed the post!
You’re a tenacious guy, Randy. I’m sure you’ll get wehre you’re trying to go
Gary,
Truly great advice. Thank you.
It’s impossible to be calm, centered, and in the moment with the weight and pressure of big goals on top of us. Whenever we can, “slow and steady” is the best way to do our best, as well as they way to sustainability. Small successes are indeed successes. Their importance should never be discounted.
Your advice is something all of us can implement today. Today! It’s very motivational.
Thanks again!
Nancy
Thank you, Nancy.
It’s a lesson I personally learned the hard way. I’m not naturally a “slow and steady” person. But eventually I learned that wanting everything done right now sometimes impedes progress more than it helps.
Big things take time to develop.
Hi Gary,
Some great tips here. Your suggestion to separate long and short term goals really stood out for me. As someone who gets easily overwhelmed by long term goals, finding a balance between the two is important. Your point about feeling the momentum was helpful too. Sometimes I’ll get stuck focusing on what needs to be done, rather than recognising the small wins I just had.
What you described sounds a LOT like me, Dave. the reason I’ve developed these better habits is because I recognized that I was horrible about wanting everything to happen right now. These really do help – and make you appreciate the process more.
I’m glad you took something away from this post. And thanks for speaking up!
It is not only our individual modern psyche but also the psyche in the modern business world that where high expectations of outcomes are expected to conquer the competition.
I have stopped setting goals altogether.
Instead I’m focusing on undertaking small daily actions which will lead me lead me in the right direction naturally.
I hear you, Priska. I still think goals and outcomes are very important. However, we often sabotage our success by expecting too much too soon. By the way: Your daily actions that move you in the right direction are little goals that you’re achieving along the way
Congrats!
That’s a fascinating story of “chunking”. It’s easy for frustration to come up when you only look at the big goal. I like this idea of taking small, regular steps.
Thank you, Sandra. I like it, too. When you pay attention to those little wins, not only is it motivating – but it makes you see that the distance to the big goals is getting shorter and shorter.
Glad you enjoyed it & thank you for contributing to the conversation!
Excellent article!! Thank ou!!
Thank you, Krystal! You’re welcome.
Nice post Gary! I’m a huge fan of the micro perspective – despite the name, or perhaps because of the name, it’s taken me long distances.
Glad you enjoyed it, Amit! Thank you.
Thanks for these great tips! I like the point about long and short term goals. This is really effective. I follow this principle and it’s working.
You’re welcome, Roman. I agree – breaking it up into smaller pieces helps a ton! Thanks for speaking up.
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Thank you, Frederick. Much appreciated!
I tend to have an overall direction i’m going in while having some other goals along the way. I know my closest goal i’m working on at the moment and I know what my overall goal is. I think it’s definately important to have both of these.
-Ben
Hi, Ben. Exactly. I agree that it really helps to keep your eye on the short term goal first. Thanks for commenting.
That is so true. Nothing significant happens overnight. And my this year goal is not to achieve something but to be consistent and patient with what I am doing without any expectation. Easier said than done. But that is a what I am going to put my thoughts into.
Easier said than done is often true. But “difficult is still doable.” With the attitude you just shared, I’ll bet you get the job done! Thanks for sharing.
Very good on perspectives and how it come make a world of difference. Especially about appreciating your progress and short and long term goals.
Thank you, Baolin! Appreciating your progress makes achieving less stressful and more enjoyable
I’m glad you could relate.
Excellent post and it’s so true that we need to make it micro.
There is also a little technique you can use, if you have the courage that will almost guarantee the achievement of big goals and dreams. It is based on the idea of “social pressure”.
Think about this; let’s say you have a goal to lose a certain amount of weight or achieve some desired level of fitness. You can set the goal privately and tell yourself, “I am going to achieve this goal by August 1.” On the other hand, you can make the goal public by telling all of your friends and family what you intend to do and even give a date for your desired completion.
As soon as you take that goal public, you move into a different state of mind. No longer are you at the mercy of your own self-discipline (which has been tarnished by years of bad habits). Now you have a much more powerful force dictating your day to day actions and decisions.
Of course, you might want to do that for goals that are rather difficult to achieve and not for each micro goal
Hi, Shanna. Going public certainly would help with accountability. Thanks for sharing your insights – good stuff!