
How do you feel when you wake up every morning?
Are you tired, longing for another hour of sleep, or are you energized and excited for the new day’s possibilities?
The attitude you possess when you start the day affects you much more than any cup of coffee ever will.
Take a moment to think back to when you were a little kid. You weren’t excited to get up and go to school Monday morning, so it was hard to get out of bed regardless of how much sleep you got the night before.
But on Christmas morning, it didn’t matter if you got eight hours of sleep (which is never the case) or one hour of sleep—you were up and ready to go with a huge smile on your face. You had a single, exciting thought planted in your brain—Open as many presents as I can get my hands on.
Somewhere along the way, though, we seem to lose that child-like Christmas morning enthusiasm that kept us up late and woke us up early. Wouldn’t you like to have it back, and not just on Christmas morning? What if that energy and enthusiasm could translate to an average day in your life?
It can.
The first hour of the morning is the rudder of the day. – Henry Ward Beecher
By starting the each morning focused, the overarching vision you have for your life will become much clearer, real, and achievable. Here are four things you can do every morning to get your day started off on the right foot.
1. Start with Gratitude
No day is guaranteed. Every new day you are given the opportunity to start is a gift. When you view it that way, more chances, opportunities, and unexpected privileges present themselves.
When you start your day with gratitude, you arm yourself against whatever negativity the next 24 hours might have in store for you. Problems will seem smaller, challenges will seem less difficult, and the good things will shine even brighter.
How do you go about creating this sense of gratitude?
Begin operating under the very real concept that this day could be your last. You will develop an intense sense of urgency and gratitude from your first waking moment.
“Live this day as if it were your last” may be the oldest cliché in existence, but there’s a reason why—if you can make it part of your everyday mindset, your days will absolutely not be the same again.
That’s where most people get it wrong. They hear “live this day as if it were your last” and immediately begin making a mental list of all the actions they would begin taking. But it’s not about action. It’s not about going skydiving or blowing off your day job. It’s about mind-set. It is a way of thinking that keeps you focused on the things that truly matter in life and nothing else.
And it will keep your thoughts in a place of gratitude like nothing else can.
2. Act the way you would like to feel.
If you don’t feel happy or energetic, start by simply acting like you do. William James, the father of modern psychology, has a quote I love: “We do not sing because we are happy; we are happy because we sing.”
Emotion follows action. It’s not the other way around.
Keep that quote in mind any time you wake up feeling grumpy, tired, or any other type of negative emotion. Jump up and down. Turn on music that you know puts you in a good mood. Smile. Laugh. They may feel forced at first, but the genuine ones are sure to follow.
3. Meditate on the things you know need to happen today.
Use these two questions to prioritize every task on your to-do list:
- What’s important now?
- What’s next?
These two questions will wake you up early, keep you up late, and allow you to stay focused on your top priorities and nothing else. Forget all the elaborate to-do list systems that are out there. These two little questions are all you need.
You will no longer waste time by sitting around wondering where you should start. Look at your list of tasks, address each item with these two questions, and then move forward on each one with massive action.
4. Go to bed in the mood in which you would like to wake up.
The reality is that no one actually wakes up on the wrong side of the bed—we actually go to sleep on the wrong side of the bed. Your subconscious mind plays an enormous role in determining how you feel in the morning.
If you go to bed full of anger and negativity, you are probably not going to wake up in anything resembling a good mood. How do you combat this? By not only doing every previous item on this list when you wake up, but also right before bed.
Think about all you have to be grateful for, put yourself in a positive mental state, and start preparing a mental plan for the next day. Read or watch something positive and inspiring. The morning may be the rudder of the day, but night is the rudder of the morning.
“Never go to bed angry” may sound like something your mom or a marriage counselor would say, but there is tremendous truth behind that piece of advice.
When you start each day with focus, life and purpose become clearer. Precious time is no longer squandered on avoidable drag-you-down activities or tasks. Focus allows you to understand the value offered with each and every passing minute. Apply these four actions, or add them to your current routine, and you will be amazed by the results.
What are your tips on how to start the day? Please share in the comments.
About the author:
Robert D. Smith is the author of 20,000 Days and Counting, a crash course in living each day with maximum intensity and purpose. He blogs about personal growth, entrepreneurship, and more at TheRobertD.com.
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Hi Robert – thanks for sharing this article on having maximum focus for the day. Many of these practices I incorporate when waking up. In addition to meditation on the priorities, importance for they day, meditation by itself also adds to daily focus and clarity.
I could/should be working on a gratitude practice more. As you point out, it’s a tool against negativity throughout the day. A gratitude practice has allowed me to change perspective about anything going on in my life but I’m not very consistent with it. Probably no better time to practice gratitude than first thing in the morning.
Thanks, Vishnu! Gratitude is a gamechanger. I’m excited to see how it works out for you in your daily schedule
So true! Gratitude and attitude…an awesome combination when done right.
I loved the school vs Christmas analogy too. Great post Robert!
A couple years ago, i noticed how rushed i was in the morning and how at night i had so much going on. i was starting to fee like i had no time for me. So one day i decided to make a change and start changing my mornings routine. Because my evenings were always to busy decided to start taking the mornings for myself. I turned off the tv at night when I got home (as to not have the hours go by and suddenly it’s midnight) and I started going to bed earlier so I COULD get up in the morning. I began my day with meditation and/or yoga, depending on the day. I make tea and sit and enjoy it while I watch the news or check morning emails. I started feeling happier during the day and people around me even began noticing. I recommend finding some time to be with your self like this.
Awesome, Brenda. I too have discovered that the best time to get the important stuff done is very early in the morning. Quiet, peaceful, less distractions. Thanks for reading!
Hi Robert,
Wonderful post! Thanks. I always try to be grateful at the end of the day, right before I sleep, but never thought to ‘start with gratitude’. Great attitude to set the tone for the day!
It’s not a bad idea to start AND end each day with gratitude…you can never have too much
Thanks for reading, and for the kind words, Jenny!
Dear Robert – Thank you for an inspiring post. I also start the day in gratitude for my own health and healing, as well as my family’s continued good health and safety. I honor each day as a gift and most mornings either meditate or do yoga. You are right: It sets a positive tone for the entire day.
Thank-YOU for reading, Susan! Your morning routine sounds awesome. It’s so easy to forget to be grateful for good health.
“Meditate on the things you know need to happen today.” – Sometimes I think too much about the things that are going to happen. I’ve already noticed that for me it’s better to do something spontaneously without thinking of it for too long.
Thanks Marry for the interesting post!
I’ve found that doing everything I can to move immediately on the things that matter as they arise has been the best thing for me. It’s amazing what we can get done when we don’t delay and move as quickly as we can! Thanks for reading, Roman!
Overall, this is a helpful post. I’m learning to be more grateful and appreciative of the relationships and opportunities I have in life.
I’d like to respectfully disagree with the third point, however slightly. Setting priorities is thinking, not meditation (as I understand it). I do agree we should set them, and can even do it the night before which helps with the fourth point. Meditation, though, is emptying the mind – freeing it not only of priorities but all issues (even gratitude!)
Thinking is certainly worthwhile, IMHO, and setting priorities is one form of it. (For other aspects, I recommend the work of Dr. Edward deBono) I just feel that a distinction ought to be made between “meditation” and thinking.
You make a great point, Mike. Meditation can mean different things for different people. I appreciate your perspective! Thanks for reading!
May I complete with a related quote by Dogen :
“Do not follow the ideas of others, but learn to listen to the voice within yourself. Your body and mind will become clear and you will realize the unity of all things.”
Loooove that quote, Max. It takes a lot of intentional action to be able to tune everything else out and actually hear what that voice is saying.
I like the way this article is written. I appreciate that there are only four steps with succinct insights to go with them. Following this advice seems doable. I make to-do lists, and they get so long, they are overwhelming. Using the two questions to prioritize will be very helpful. Thanks much to Robert for writing the article and to Mary for posting it!
Laura, thanks so much for the kind words! Those two questions are to-do list killers
I like to think of something funny OR a surprise I plan for someone to start my day. Laughter is always good Rx.
Thankyou for the tips. I could use some improvement starting my day with maximum focus.
It usually takes me a bit of time to get into the swing of things, but the quicker I can learn to do this the better it will be.
-Ben
Well,im thinking about all i have to be grateful for, at night,right when i have to sleep,and in morning im happy at all! i know that this is the cause for happyness.keep it up Rob.!
I love this! I have changed my morning alarms to include messages of gratitude, as a reminder to let that be my guide.
Thanks for the sharing Robert. To start a day, consciousness is important to keep ourself away from tons of distraction, confusion in life. This is to ensure a better living of everyday of our life.
Great tips esspecialy about how to go to bed. I allways thinking about tommorows duty and problems.. I will try on your way..
Here is some great tips from my favorit Osho:
Try to live a life with as little complexity and less problems as possible — and it is in your hands.
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What a great article! Thank you!