The missing ingredient?
The ingredients aren’t hard to obtain, but the trick is knowing how much of which ingredient to add and at what time. ~ David Thorton
Have you ever prepared a dish only to realize too late that you left some vital ingredient out?
Maybe it was the sugar in a batch of cookies or the yeast in a loaf of bread. Everything seemed great until you took a bite and suddenly the missing ingredient was glaringly obvious.
Life itself also consists of recipes, even if allowing for liberal innovation to them. There are recipes for success, for example, with certain vital ingredients to achieve it. There are recipes for great marriages and good health and lasting happiness as well.
The Vital Missing Ingredient
But to some degree or another, we’re all missing some of those vital ingredients in the mixture of our lives. We live life on the verge. We’re nearly where we want to be, but not quite.
Very often, we’re doing all we need to do … except that one vital thing that will make all the difference.
It’s not that everything in our lives is out of whack. We’re simply missing a key ingredient: the sugar or yeast in the recipe. Often, all we need to do is to make that last change, start doing that one thing that leads to dramatic growth and improvement.
Here are a few examples of what I mean:
Spirituality
A strong and vibrant spiritual life needs certain things to flourish. Certainly, we can meditate and pray and serve others. Those are important parts of a rich spiritual life.
But like sugarless cookies, it’s missing a key ingredient when we don’t set aside time on a daily basis to read from spiritually uplifting and inspiring literature. The difference is palpable. We’re simply less in tune, less plugged into the divine.
Health
We can eat all the right foods and work out every day. But if we miss too much sleep for too many days in a row (which happens on occasion to most of us), it doesn’t matter how many vitamins we pop, our bodies feel the difference. The vital missing ingredient needs to be added in the right amounts before we can feel our physical bodies operating at peak performance.
Happiness
We can be the brightest optimists and the most positive thinkers, but when we allow something like impatience to get the best of us, our happiness will be predictably lack-luster. We feel it inside. We’re less happy, more often.
And while the ingredients to a well-rounded and deeply fulfilling life may be baking up pretty well for you right now, when even just one vital ingredient is left out of the mix, our lives can simply come out tasting a bit underwhelming (professionally, socially, emotionally or otherwise).
What’s Your Missing Ingredient?
Chances are you already know what that one missing ingredient is that if applied would notably change your life.
For some, it may be overcoming a fear or having a regular date night with their spouse or working out regularly. For another, it may be ending procrastination, forgiving a parent or learning the art of gratitude.
But in each of our lives, often sitting right under our noses, we have that one thing that can begin to change the trajectory of our lives. Add it, change it, start it or stop it and life will shine brighter than it has in a long time.
You Control the Recipe
Never let anyone make you feel like something is lacking in your life just because someone else has something you don’t or has more of it. If you prefer a cake without frosting, don’t frost the cake!
There is only so much time for so many things after all. To take your game to the next level in one area of your life may very well mean that you’ll be spending less time in another.
So be sure you’re clear on what you value most and whether any of those values are out of sync with first principles. Identify your priorities as you talk to those who will be affected by any changes you want to make to them.
Then, if you feel it’s the right recipe for you at this time, start adding the missing ingredients. But remember that you can choose not to add an ingredient as well, even if others are claiming it to be vital. But also remember that the missing ingredient will affect the recipe.
Beware of Counterfeit Recipes
Have you ever looked through a recipe book and spotted a photo of the perfect dish, then followed the recipe religiously and the thing ended up looking nothing like the photo? Sometimes we get images in our heads about what life will be like once we mix in a few ingredients as well. The we’re shocked when it doesn’t match the picture.
Here are a few examples of common mismatches:
- I’ll be happy when I find Mr. or Mrs. Right.
- I’ll feel good about myself when I can afford this house or that car.
- I’ll finally feel complete when my parents apologize or my spouse changes or my wardrobe improves.
- I’ll fall in love with life when my soul mate falls in love with me first.
- I won’t feel so lonely once I have kids.
This is only a tiny sample of false associations that can lead us down self-defeating paths, so be crystal clear about what is truly missing. Then identify the obstacles and rewrite the solutions around them.
And then, as you start to mix in the missing parts, over time, you will come to see that assumptions you’ve made about your own limitations have been wildly exaggerated, that you can fashion an amazing life of accomplishment, love, passion, meaning and joy by just a few tweaks to the recipe you’re currently following.
Afterthoughts
If life for you seems rather bland, or is not quite where you want it to be, if some aspect of your life (your finances, marriage, social life, character, happiness) is lackluster, chances are you’re not missing much.
It may very well be just one small part, a single step, a single omission, one ingredient that’s missing. Figure out what that ingredient is, make the proper adjustment, and watch what happens!
YOUR TURN!
- So, what’s the missing ingredient in your life?
- And what are you doing about it?
- I’d love to read your thoughts in the comments below.
About the author:
Ken Wert is a personal development blogger at Meant to be Happy where he inspires readers to live with purpose, act with character, think with clarity and grow with courage. Sign up for his free eBook, A Walk Through Happiness! Connect with him on Twitter.
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Nice analogy. Adventure, if anything, is maybe lacking some. A little more zing. Thanks for a thought provoking post.
Zen Presence – Journey to a Quiet Mind´s last [type] ..No News is Good News – Disconnecting
Thanks so much for the comment. Growing up I had dreams of exploring the Amazon rainforest, hiking the great trails from around the world, snow skiing the great slopes, skydiving, cliff jumping, traveling the globe, seeing the world and experiencing life in fast-forward.
Now my adventures are a little more tame. They include having a new kid in my (let’s say) upper 40s, chasing him around, exploring different ways of growing veggies in the backyard, blogging (which is an adventure like no other!) and getting a new batch of kids each year as a high school teacher. I know, not quite as newsworthy as crossing the Atlantic on a surfboard or hitching a ride on the Space Shuttle, but enough for me right now.
So glad I was able to provoke some thought. And good luck adding some zing to your life. There’s lots of ways to do it without having to fork out too much hard-earned income either. For many people, some adventure can be added by simply joining Toastmasters to learn to do some public speaking or taking some vacation time to go on an inexpensive roadtrip to somewhere fairly close by or by volunteering at a children’s hospital cancer ward or simply picking up a new hobby. But if those things aren’t the kind of zing you’re lacking, my daughter has gone zip-lining and swears by it!
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..You Were Born to be Extraordinary!
Ingredients will always spice the food. Yes and they way we put it depends on our taste or missing ingredient. That’s exactly one of the best ways to look at the missing ingredient in one’s life. But does it go for all classes of people? For example, an African of the middle class still cares much more about dinner, launch and supper. Do you think it can work out for him? Because all his ingredients will probably be survive with his family. Does the missing part our lives involve these?
This topic of “missing ingredient in one’s life” has showed me a lot, especially what life can be when I seat and think what my main problem or missing is. In fact I just did and figured out a lot of things I always neglected which needed just a little adjustment and not doing them in the same way day-in-day-out.
Great questions, Goddy. But yes, I think the metaphor equally applies. It’s just that what is missing may be something very different. For many people around the world the most important missing ingredient may be freedom from poverty or from political oppression. And of course, some people truly have so many missing ingredients that their lives need a brand new recipe rather than a pinch of this or that tot he recipe. There are people who populate the prison system, for instance, who are likely missing more than an ingredient or two from their character.
On another note, that’s awesome that you were able to sit down and figure out some heretofore neglected parts of your life. Now have fun making the adjustments and enjoying the results! Life is a kitchen and we are each our own chefs! So whip up something amazing!
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..You Were Born to be Extraordinary!
This is an interesting way to get to know yourself. Seeing yourself, perhaps, as a complete dinner/dish composed of many ingredients. We are complex beings in one sense. Then again, in another sense, we are very simple and sometimes we make life just way too complex.
What if we got all the analyzing out of the way and found that inside, deep within, joy and peace were all we wanted? What if it was as simple as letting out the real “you” which knows? The you that simply pursues exactly what we want and need, exactly when we want to. Probably IS that simple … it just aint always easy
What I like to do is observe myself, my feelings, my actions, my emotions and reactions. Kinda fun and I’m getting to know myself rather well! Mmmm, perfectly seasoned!
Carmelo´s last [type] ..Changing the World
“Sometimes we make life way too complex.” Well said, Carmelo! We certainly do! I think you’re right about what is at the heart of what we want. We want happiness (or peace and joy, as you put it). If you get to the very core of everything we pursue, there is happiness. The problem is that not everyone knows how to find it. So they seek it in power or financial success or popularity or sex or having tons of fun. The thing is there are some ingredients to a happy life that are common to all people and all cultures everywhere and at all times. There is no true happiness, for example, in living a duplicitous, stingy, angry life of hatred and impatience. Those traits by nature violate the principles of happiness and therefore prevent those people overcome by them from experiencing the happiness they wished they had but likely blame on other external conditions.
But that’s why it’s not always easy, as you mentioned. Clarity is often made fuzzy by our personal histories, by the socialization we underwent, by fear and familial patterns and parental attitudes and the like.
As for being perfectly seasoned, I have no doubt your life is just that, Carmelo. You seem like a warm and thoughtful person. Thank you so much for sharing your insight here.
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..You Were Born to be Extraordinary!
Loved the comparison between cooking and a person’s life.
I have seen people try another persons recipe wondering why the dish (life) isn’t turning out the way it did when the other person put the ingredients together. Somehow they are not understanding that they have to create their own recipe.
Glynis Jolly´s last [type] ..Do You Long for Change?
Thanks Glynis!
What a great point.
While there are some universal principles that apply to all people (kindness will always produce more happiness than unkindness as a general attitude for life, for example), to follow someone else’s path with any kind of detail or specificity is a mistake that can cause us so much grief.
It would be wise to use some basic universal ingredients, but then to adapt it to our own tastes by spicing it up or smoothing it out or otherwise making the recipe our own. Otherwise, we risk getting to the end of the recipe only to realize we never really liked what we were making.
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..You Were Born to be Extraordinary!
Hi Ken. You raise some important issues and I especially agree with you about not investing in counterfeit recipes…great analogy, and good examples.
I would take a little different approach to the broader question in that instead of focusing on what is missing in my life, I would choose rather to focus on what is right about it. I am inclined to believe that when we focus on what is missing it creates more of it being missing. Focusing on the positive brings balance to a situation and opens us up to receiving information or ideas that will help us experience more fulfillment.
Celeste Smucker´s last [type] ..The Real Food Lovers Diet
Hi Celeste. I agree with you on one score, that to go through life focusing on the positive is a good idea. But to have blinders on or to refuse to look very closely under the hood of our own character is to miss some important opportunities to recognize opportunities for growth. A good honest look in the mirror is an important step toward personal development.
That’s not to say that we should beat ourselves up for the moral warts and wrinkles we may notice with the long hard stare in the mirror. We should approach personal growth with love and patience and acceptance of who we are, but with an honest evaluation of our character, how we treat others, our integrity to our values and the like.
Besides, I think focusing on what we can do to grow is itself a positive thing. Again, it all depends on the attitude with which we do the evaluation, I suppose.
Would love to hear what you think about my reply.
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..You Were Born to be Extraordinary!
Hi Ken…I wasn’t at all saying we shouldn’t look at who we are. I think an honest evaluation is a great start. Rather I was saying that when we do that evaluation it is important to be OK with who and what we find rather than taking the view that we are somehow incomplete…missing ingredients.
We are all always poised somewhere on a continuum between positive and negative and I believe ultimately finding the balance between them by accepting it all and being OK with it all leads to wholeness and a sense of peace.
I was mostly reacting to your analogy about a missing ingredient…which seems to put the focus on lack and finding solutions outside of ourselves… I would rather say that we are all complete already…the challenge is in acknowledging that and accepting ourselves as the amazing human beings that we are so we stop getting in our own way. Thanks for your thoughtful reply and clarification…I suspect our views are not that far apart.
Celeste Smucker´s last [type] ..The Real Food Lovers Diet
Thanks for the clarification, Celeste. And sorry for the misreading.
I agree that it’s important to be self-accepting in most cases. Self-hatred is a bad place to be and a poor motivation for sustained improvement. For the average person, accepting and loving who and what we are is a good platform from which to grow. There are others who, I think, self-acceptance would be troublesome — the wife-beater, the child abuser, the drug dealer and the like. I hope they look in the mirror and see something horribly in need of changing.
But for the rest of us, self-acceptance makes personal growth easier. Still, when I look myself in the mirror, so to speak, I can accept myself, love myself, even celebrate myself and still recognize the missing pieces. That’s what personal improvement is all about, it seems to me. It’s seeing the impatience or anger or intolerance or laziness or tendency to procrastinate or selfishness or pride or some other weakness or underdeveloped trait, then taking steps to improve, to grow, to make that missing or incomplete part, that immature characteristic or undercooked part of our moral or emotional lives better.
In other words, I don’t believe recognizing missing ingredients and self-acceptance are necessarily mutually exclusive conditions.
Having said that, the thrust of my post was more in the area of things we’re not doing that would enhance that self-acceptance. The missing ingredient to my spirituality might be prayer or scripture reading or meditation or reading from other sources of so-called wisdom literature or acts of service. My missing ingredient professionally might be organizational or managerial in nature. Or perhaps it’s neglecting to keep up to date on new developments in the industry.
I guess the main point I’m hoping to make in my article is that often we go through life wanting certain things (happiness, strong marriage, good kids, to make a difference to live with meaning and purpose, to have the freedom to travel, or whatever). By identifying what it is that’s most preventing these things is an important step in the process of developing them. But if we’re not looking for them, they may be more difficult to identify.
Rereading your reply once more before I hit submit, makes me think that perhaps our takes on the issue is mostly a semantics issue. If I want to be more patient, am I really okay with my current lack of patience? Why would I change anything, grow anything, improve anything if I like the way it is, if I see myself in that area as complete, whole and just fine? On the other hand, if I am self-condemning, unloving, and unkind in my reaction to what I see, I’ll have a difficult time with the confidence and wherewithal to take the necessary steps toward personal growth.
Anyway, would love to hear your reaction. Like you say, our views are probably much more similar than at first blush they appeared.
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..The Optimist Creed: Why Optimists are so Optimistic!
Thank you for sending me that bit of information. I am a very unhappy person right now. I have no idea what my obstacle is. I know that my certain living situation seems to be driving me insane, which is unfortunate because I would prefer to live with my family then have to move. I feel this stress that i need to escape this as soon as possible. There are too many triggers for stress in this house. Too many bad memories. I am a loner and I am A OKAY with that. It would be nice to have someone there, but its not essential for me. I am a very simple person and need very little be satisfied. I wish someone could just tell me what my problem is because sometimes I would to give up on life. I am not suicidal or anything I am just not as passionate as I used to be. I used to be a very vivid person, and it was not very long ago and now I just cope day by day. Hopefully I can take advantage of this upcoming job opportunity and make the best of it! Thanks again for the inspiration.
Hey there, Caleb. Thanks for sharing your heart here.
It seems to me that if home is filled with triggers, the best thing you can do for your happiness is to find a cheap place to move into (assuming you’re of age and have the means). If you are old enough and don’t have the means, I would make finding a job a top priority so you can soon afford to move out. You say you prefer to stay at home, I know. But my suggestion is that you don’t put convenience or savings above your sanity. Your listlessness is not a very fulfilling way to live. So whatever conveniences you may be getting by living there may not be worth the cost to your interest in life and joy in living.
There are several roads to a life of excitement and passion. One of those paths is to simply take action everyday. Take action even though you don’t feel like it and see what happens. Sometimes by doing passionate things, passionate feelings start to return. I can’t emphasize enough the importance of taking action. Try to avoid just reading a bunch of ideas, nod in agreement and never do anything with them. It’s better to read a little and take action a lot than to read a lot and take action on very little.
In the meantime, I hope your job opportunity turns out well.
Take care, Caleb.
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..14 Reasons to get Excited about Life, Part I (#1-4)
What a unique angle on enhancing one’s life! The two elements that popped in my mind yesterday are time and relaxation. Perhaps, I can add those into the mix!
Sandra Pawula´s last [type] ..The Amazing Power of a Little Girl’s Wish
Thanks Sandra! Great ingredients to add to life’s mixture! To be able to truly and deeply relax is such a blessing. So many people are tremendously uptight, their shoulders and back all knotted up and their foreheads prematurely wrinkled. But to really relax not only in body and mind, but a total rejuvenating kind of relaxation is so renewing and refreshing, it can change the way life plays out for us.
Would you want to simply have more time or to use it better? I would love both!
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..The Optimist Creed: Why Optimists are so Optimistic!
Great post, thanks for sharing.
Hmmm, what ingredient is missing? Tough question.
I’m actually grateful that we(I) need to continuously be looking for a different recipe. For my first 35 years of life I was looking for the “secret recipe” that, as others have mentioned, was recommended by others (or society rather). Job, relationships, material or external things, etc.
The first key missing ingredient was desperation. Then came humility, spirituality, and self-searching. Out of that I discovered self-love or emotional connectedness with self. Which helped bake up some empathy and compassion for self and others.
I don’t think I know what the missing ingredients are today. Although I’m currently on an emotional intelligence kick and using it to better myself and those I work with professionally were possible. Meditation and yoga are also adding some different taste to my recipe.
As I grow spiritually and emotionally my palate changes. Thus the ingredients are constantly changing.
Although all the ingredients have been key (humility, spirituality, emotional literacy, etc.) , they are all part of what makes up my own unique recipe. That is the ability to accept self, only give and receive love, and ultimately find happiness by living on purpose through being of service to others.
jared akers´s last [type] ..HTBH 019: Dealing with Unhappy People
Ah, yes Jared, especially when we’re young, we go off to create the life we think we’re supposed to create or that society has held up as the ideal or that just seems cool and glamorous. Then one day we look around and shake our heads and wonder why we ever thought the recipe for a good life was anything like that.
Sounds like you’ve got just about the right mix going for you right now. That’s awesome. I really like this: “As I grow spiritually and emotionally my palate changes. Thus the ingredients are constantly changing.” That’s such a true statement. If we have the wisdom to allow our recipes to adjust with our changing palates, life stays wonderful. It’s when we don’t that we feel inner dissonance between the life we’re living and the life our guts tell us we should be living.
Thanks for the awesome comment, Jared. Love your thinking.
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..The Optimist Creed: Why Optimists are so Optimistic!
This is a very empowering post, Ken! The idea that maybe the recipe is just a bit off, just a tweak or two can create a better life, is very encouraging. I know exactly the tweaks I need to make (more service, like I mentioned before…still working on the action part! – and daily morning writing).
Btw, loved this part: “Never let anyone make you feel like something is lacking in your life just because someone else has something you don’t or has more of it. If you prefer a cake without frosting, don’t frost the cake!” – YES! I was struggling with this recently. Spending so much time on Facebook, I was seeing the highlights of everyone else’s life – and comparing those to my own daily life. Before I knew it, I wanted to be a vegan in the big city – and I’m 100% a nature kinda gal who adores ice cream! You perfectly illustrated how to get away from the comparison game. Loved it Ken. =)
Kaylee´s last [type] ..Strap on Your Overalls and Tend to Your Goals Like a Good Farmer
Thank you Kaylee!
Sometimes we look in the mirror and see all these needed changes. But when we really think about it, just a small tweak or two here or there changes the picture in dramatic ways. Still, I have to go back to what Celeste said in a previous comment, that we need to be able to accept and love ourselves even as we make plans to grow and develop. I remember what you said about service. If I remember correctly, I had suggested looking into local organizations in an area you have some interest or passion. Have you done that yet? Just look to see what’s there. No commitment yet. Just to see. Once you take a noncommittal baby step, momentum just may take you to the next one. Try it!
That’s funny how Facebook got you wanting a vegan city life. We are so susceptible to comparing ourselves to others aren’t we! We’re all like that to some degree. What’s sad is when people don’t snap out of it and go chasing someone else’s dream only to wake up and realize the dream isn’t nearly as wonderful awake.
Thanks for your support and kind words, Kaylee. You’re awesome!
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..The Optimist Creed: Why Optimists are so Optimistic!
Well way to inspire me to action, Ken. I just did some searching and applied to be a volunteer job coach nearby. =) Clearly, *you* are awesome! Thanks!
Kaylee´s last [type] ..Strap on Your Overalls and Tend to Your Goals Like a Good Farmer
You absolutely made my day, Kaylee! Thank you for sharing that bit of awesome news with me. Hope to hear how it pans out!
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..The Optimist Creed: Why Optimists are so Optimistic!
I like the idea with a recipe. So often we just heap together a lot of stuff, most not even something that we can digest, because – as you know – we never know what we might need. We have a vague idea of a desired outcome, perhaps we expect guests for dinner, and our most honed expertice is to navigate through our own self-imposed clutter. The difference between a kitchen and life, is that you can leave the kitchen, but you can’t very well leave life. So we’re stick with the mess without recipes.
So the recipe, your own or your favorite of the family collection, the one that work for you, is vitally important. This post once again inspired me to think hard/soft about what really makes me happy, what really is useful in a broad sense, and what not to include in the dish – since it’s not in the recipe for my life.
Clairity is all, and it leaves time for the famliy to sit down and enjoy the feast of life together.
Missing in my recipe? Sugar and spice, allways sugar and spice. More friendships, more sunshine. More sparkle of light in the eyes of people, suddenly realizing that things are possible. I say with Miss Piggy: Too Much is Never Enough.
Thanks for such a thought-out comment, Erik!
So true. When we add ingredients to the recipe of our lives, we are stuck with whatever smell and taste it produces — for a while anyway. While consequences follow our actions, our decision, our character, and while some of those consequences can have some very long-term results, most of our choices can be removed or undone. A shaky marriage can be improved. A bad habit can be changed. An offended relationship can be fixed — in most cases. But to choose a recipe early on and to successfully mix in the right ingredients at the right time is an important process.
I love clarity, Erik. So glad to have helped you get clear on what makes you happy, my friend.
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..The Optimist Creed: Why Optimists are so Optimistic!
Mary,
I just wanted to thank you for the opportunity to guest post here at Goodlife ZEN and to interact with your awesome readers. It’s been a joy. They are deep thinking, from-the-heart types who have made me feel at home while still keeping me on my toes at the same time. Can’t get much better than that!
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..Why Changing Your Language Can Change Your Life
You wrote:
“A strong and vibrant spiritual life needs certain things to flourish. Certainly, we can meditate and pray and serve others. Those are important parts of a rich spiritual life.
But like sugarless cookies, it’s missing a key ingredient when we don’t set aside time on a daily basis to read from spiritually uplifting and inspiring literature. The difference is palpable. We’re simply less in tune, less plugged into the divine.”
Personally, I have always found the reverse to be true: Reading spiritual literature appears to me as quite meaningless by itself and only meditation, personal discovery and action are what actual spirituality consists of for me.
However, your opinion indeed seems to be far more widespread. Maybe I am wrong after all.
Koany´s last [type] ..#37 Light
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Koany. I really do appreciate it. But to be direct with you, you changed what I said. I had said that doing the other spiritually important things WITHOUT reading spiritually uplifting material leaves me less in tune. Your comment says, “Reading spiritual literature appears to me as quite meaningless by itself.” That may be your problem. To read wisdom literature (or whatever you find spiritually uplifting) by itself without the other “ingredients” would be at least as incomplete. It is one in conjunction with the rest that shapes our spiritual lives most. That’s the point of the article. “What’s the missing ingredient?” In other words, so often all we need to do to round off some part of our lives is to do that one missing part. It was never meant as advice to add one ingredient INSTEAD of the other items.
Of course another problem may be in the spiritual literature you’ve been choosing. I obviously can’t know if that’s the answer, but if the work you have read that purports to be spiritually uplifting isn’t uplifting you, try other work.
The last possible obstacle I can think of is that when we read something inspiring, but fail to act on the inspiration, we can be left with a discomforting feeling that we should be doing something we’re not or should stop something we’re doing. In that case, it’s not the literature’s doing, but our own reluctance to take the steps that would lead into a deeper spirituality.
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..Moral Happiness: what happiness looks like all grown up
This is wonderful, we all have missing elements in our lives and I agree with Time, Relaxation and being Good to yourself. Which most find the hardest to do.
So glad you thought so, Zivana! Sometimes adding those final elements to our lives are the hardest, for sure. But with just a little more effort, our lives can be brought to the next level.
Thanks for leaving a comment, Zivana. Truly appreciated!
Ken Wert@MeanttobeHappy´s last [type] ..Moral Happiness: what happiness looks like all grown up
For me the missing ingredient was for many years communication and understand why others were thinking so different from me. I learned DiSC a couple of years back, which massively changed my life.
I can highly recommend getting to know different behavioral models.
Kind Regards
Mads
Hey Ken, what a great post. I wish I had of seen this a long time ago. I’ve always had a good life but thought there was something missing in it and it took me a long time to figure out what that was. My life wasn’t benefiting anyone else, there were social problems around me and I would turn a blind eye.
Now, I’m trying to help other people achieve fulfilment in their own lives and help in whatever small way I can and I’ve never been happier. I don’t know what brought on the change, maybe just hitting a certain age, but I have never felt so peaceful as I have after I gave up my dream of a high paying job and took up the dream of helping people who need help.
It truly is more fulfilling to help others than yourself. I look forward to reading more of your stuff on your blog. Thanks for the inspiration and affirmation.
Bloom´s last [type] ..How Do People See You?
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