Comments on: How to Transform Anger into Connection: 10 Tips for Peaceful Words

By: ABSue

ABSue — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 17:05:31 +0000

It touched a trigger for me, and it’s a hair trigger.

I’m aware that it’s someone’s opinion; that’s what blogs are for: opinions. There are a lot of people whose opinion of me is that I don’t exist, which gets hard to take at times. Probably you won’t even know what I’m talking about, but that’s okay.

By: Leah McClellan

Leah McClellan — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 15:50:22 +0000

@ABSue, Hey There,
Maybe the author of a blog post or any piece of writing shouldn’t admit to this, but I have to say…..these 800-some words are nowhere near the last words on the topic of anger There is so much more written on the subject, including the book from which I quoted, Anger, by Thich Naht Hahn. Perhaps take some comfort in knowing this post is just one way of looking at things with many possible interpretations
.-= Leah McClellan´s last blog ..Cops, robbers, and traffic tickets =-.

By: ABSue

ABSue — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 10:01:22 +0000

Anger arises from unmet needs…. or from reminders that a certain aching need is not going to be met, nyah nyah nyah!

I am in pain from reading this article and the comments…. angry, frustrated, and crying. It points out that I am different in unacceptable ways. I am so lonely…

By: Leah McClellan

Leah McClellan — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 22:29:29 +0000

@Lauren, Same here with the TV, Lauren. I grew up without it, for the most part, and I rarely watch as an adult. It's very hard for me to watch violent shows or movies! Same with the news. Glad to hear from you, and great that you especially appreciate the first tip. Thanks. .-= Leah McClellan´s last blog ..You talk too much! Tips and tricks for talkers and quiet types =-.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 22:21:28 +0000

Hi Leah,

Nice post on a very important topic.

I especially like your first point. I’ve almost never had a TV, except for watching movies on DVD. When I visit my family and see the amount of angry violence I realize how not great that feels to my state of being. I can’t imagine exposing myself to it as a steady diet.

Along the same lines, there’s only so much news I expose myself to. I love hearing what’s going on, but find I need to balance it. I feel so much better when I limit my exposure to the negativity and it’s something I do for myself on a regular basis.

Your other points are good as well, yet the first is something I think many of us overlook, not realizing the impact it has upon how we feel.

Thanks,
Lauren
.-= Lauren´s last blog ..The Truth Of A Lie – Part 2 =-.

By: Leah McClellan

Leah McClellan — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 03:05:08 +0000

@Berta, Hi Berta, The people who are closest to us and the ones we love the most are often the people who can really get us going more than anyone! It sounds like you've been doing a lot of thinking and exploration--that's wonderful. Mother-daughter relationships are often tough. Best wishes to you! .-= Leah McClellan´s last blog ..From argument to agreement: 7 tips for difficult discussions =-.

By: Leah McClellan

Leah McClellan — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 03:01:16 +0000

@John Sherry, Thanks John! "Keeping it on my side" is a neat way to put it. Triggers...I think most of us have at least a few of those, things we're particularly sensitive about. .-= Leah McClellan´s last blog ..From argument to agreement: 7 tips for difficult discussions =-.

By: Berta

Berta — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 16:38:00 +0000

I find that my biggest triggers are my daughter & husband, the ones I love the most in life. They know how to push my buttons and I feel like I have to ration out my time spent with them sometimes or I go into a downward spiral. First comes my defensive attitude and then it seems like they can say or do just the right thing that triggers my defensiveness into anger and then a never ending cycle of regret and guilt. My daughter is almost 30 now, very artistic and is actually a certified instructor of Yoga just recently and I had really hoped her time in training would teach her skills to want to better our own communication. We get along pretty well most of the time, but she is very critical of me and will ask me questions only to tell me why the solutions I suggest won’t work for her. It’s very exhausting and there are days I don’t want to be around anybody. I don’t know if this is appropriate for this forum, I guess I just felt compelled to write it down to releive some of the pressure.

By: John Sherry

John Sherry — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 11:20:51 +0000

Excellent post on anger with a positive vibe – that’s a skill for sure Leah! It all works wonderfully flowing from one point to the next. I am particularly drawn to knowing the triggers and reconsider venting as they are linked elements to me. This whole article got me questioning how I approach my anger but also on how to keep it on my side and not out of control. In a fast, mad world this advice is simple but highly needed.
.-= John Sherry´s last blog ..Find A Fine Companion =-.

By: Leah McClellan

Leah McClellan — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 01:30:45 +0000

@Manal, Thanks Manal, for your very interesting comment. I like your technique for dealing with anger. In a way, it’s like venting, but your way is structured, with a purpose. Seems to me you’re honoring yourself by allowing yourself to feel what you feel (rather than trying to quench it or ignore it), but then you explore what you’re feeling by writing it down, and you put a limit to it and symbolically throw out the anger, but you get a fresh perspective. Nice. Thank YOU! Got me thinking about something related….future post probably
.-= Leah McClellan´s last blog ..World peace starts with us: a mini-manifesto =-.