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By: Prerna

Prerna — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 12:32:19 +0000

This is lovely, Mary. Goodbyes are so often taken for granted that one forgets that they mark a “coming separation”. My goodbyes especially in the morning as I leave my daughter at playschool are happy and mindful, but brief. Else she’ll never let me go:-)
Others are, regrettably, fleeting. Time for me to change that!
.-= Prerna´s last blog ..5 Simple Ways to Save Money on Groceries =-.

By: Stephen Bekersky

Stephen Bekersky — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 11:22:46 +0000

I think you are on the money, Mary. I often wonder why my meditative goodbyes are not not met in kind by some of my friends and family. I even wish the clerk at the gas station to ‘Be well’, or ‘Be good’, or ‘Be safe’; I certainly don’t expect much by way of reciprocation from a relative stranger like a clerk, but I am often baffled at the lack of care people I really love take in parting!

By: Zengirl @ happy heart and mind

Zengirl @ happy heart and mind — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 05:53:15 +0000

I would like to say “we’ll meet again” or “until, next time” to leave it open ended unless I am 101% sure this is the last time. World is getting closer/smaller so you never know whom you will meet again.
.-= Zengirl @ happy heart and mind´s last blog ..Blogging Philosphy: for Pro or newbie – Real heroes are readers =-.

By: Justin Dixon

Justin Dixon — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:21:12 +0000

I make sure to give a genuine hug to my girlfriend even when one of us is just going to work. As for the e-mails I've had a hard time finding a closing that I really like. Lately I've starting writing All the Best and Than Some, .-= Justin Dixon´s last blog ..A Full Body Workout in 15 Minutes a Day =-.

By: Hilda

Hilda — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:01:09 +0000

I often use “all the best” signing off in emails and have been thinking about it lately – it doesn’t feel enough. Yet “blessings” or “love and light” or something along those lines doesn’t feel like me. “All the best” came naturally as my dad used to say it all the time when saying goodbye to people.

When I read your “be well” that really resonated with me. And possibly because I have been working with the loving-kindness meditations lately. Thank you for sharing this – I may adopt it too
.-= Hilda´s last blog ..A new source of income =-.

By: Ioan Nicut

Ioan Nicut — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:38:42 +0000

I use to hug people and have physical contact with them. For some of them who are new in relationships with me it might seem awkward.

Someday I found this Virginia Satir quote that I love very much that confirms somehow my beliefs. ”I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them.”

It sort of justifies my purpose on this world. Support people. I know you are a therapist Mary. I am a Coach. I use to support people on my day to day life.

Now, back to the topic of separation.

My father died in February this year after having a long suffering. While he was still conscious, I told him several times months after months, how much I love him, How much I thank him for his legacy and how much I am the leader of my life as inspired by him but maybe more of that how much I appreciate the love and care that he gave to us. I told him to be in peace because we all live a fulfilled life because of his great contribution and legacy.

the process of his death was only the physical separation. We were separated before and I took it very easy. I offered myself as a separation gift attending to the a-list bootcamp in February…

I wrote a post related to relationships with people to treat them as if it would be our last day together. That leads me to a clearer life and living into a place of freedom and authenticity.

Thanks for your the great work. YOU are a kind and generous person Mary! Imagine I embrace you with my heart!

I wish you to be blessed by the Universe.

By: Cheryl Paris

Cheryl Paris — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:13:30 +0000

Dear Mary,

Beautifully written and explained the importance of ‘goodbye’. The picture is perfect for the wonderful article.
Life is so uncertain and we don’t know how long we or our loved ones will be with us. I feel that ‘it is much more difficult for us to say goodbye to persons we love’.

Saying a proper ‘goodbye’ will at least leave us with no regrets.

Bye for now,
Cheryl Paris Blog
.-= Cheryl Paris´s last blog ..Is willpower inherent or cultivated over a period of time? =-.

By: janice | Sharing the Journey

janice | Sharing the Journey — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 09:49:59 +0000

This was a beautiful post, Mary. I'm guessing everyone who read it had formed different expectations about what they hoped to learn from it before they even read it. I found myself wondering if it would address seeking closure; saying deliberate, kind and grateful goodbyes to people and situations that no longer bring us peace. What I found instead was what the universe decided I needed today, an assurance that my decision to be a deciduous blogger rather than an evergreen was the right one. I prefer to live an engaged life and blog about it rather than blog and live a shadow of the life I used to. My kids never leave the house without hugs, kisses and goodbyes. As a family, we end all our phone calls with love yous. My dad's 85 and every moment spent talking to him could be the last so we treat every moment together as precious. Thank you for reminding me to keep on living every moment of my life with engagement and presence. .-= janice | Sharing the Journey´s last blog ..Writers Write (Revisited): Your Comments are Part of Your Writing Mosaic =-.

By: Lana - {Daring Clarity}

Lana - {Daring Clarity} — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 09:27:17 +0000

I loved “be well” for emails. So simple but such a profound and powerful way to end a message. Thank you Mary.
I often like ending my messages with a variation of “let me know if I can help with anything”.
.-= Lana – {Daring Clarity}´s last blog ..How I Got to The Core, Got Scared… and Survived. =-.