I want to respond briefly to the article and video you did. I definitely believe that growth is something very worthwhile. And that is the growth of becoming something wonderful. I would also say that there are good kinds of change and bad kinds of change. And by change I mean how a human being can be different than what they were in the past.

Bad kinds of change would include doing harm to others, neglecting parental responsibilities, becoming addicted to drugs, etc… If these have not been done in one’s past and they do them at some point in the future, this is a bad change for the person. They have become someone who cares less about others and themselves.

Good kinds of change would include becoming physically active, taking better care of children, breaking a harmful addiction, etc… In my case, I was fifty pounds overweight a few years ago. I was fortunate to lose the weight and felt great. That was most definitely a change. A part of my belly was gone I then changed early in 2009 by doing the P90X workout program and my belly became a six pack, another positive change.

So I would say that positive change along with growth is what one should seek in life. You definitely don’t want to focus on changing something about yourself if it involves your own unique personality and core beliefs, or what you hold dear. But if it involves harmful behavior, or being physically overweight to the point you could die early, then change for the better should be sought out if you wish to live a longer, healthier, and happier life – unless one is happy with their physical state and can accept the chance of an early death. But I definitely don’t accept that.

In short, I love your calmness and focus on growth. I can tell you are a very spiritual person who is in touch with a lot of good areas in life and you are at peace with yourself. But I wouldn’t go as far to say that any kind of change should be de-focused. Positive change and transformation is a wonderful thing, along with the growth (like the acron you mentioned).

Thanks again for your work – you produce thought provoking words and ideas here. Best to you,

Jeremy

What a great reminder this article is. And I could watch you speak all day -your presence is so soothing and calming, yet strong.

As I grow older I seem to grow more comfortable in my own skin and with who I am, but I especially remember struggling with this when I was younger. I tried the cut the parts you don’t like out approach, and as you predict, without success.

I then discovered a group called Earth Living Foundation. They offered retreats called Domain Shift. It was great because I was able to do movement and emotional release work. It helped me tremendously to realize that feelings aren’t bad! This was very important to me and freed me greatly.

Still, I need reminders on occasion and I especially like the re-frame from change to growth. Growth is like a continual flowering and embracement, while change does seem to have the connotation of gotta get rid of it and push forward.

Personally, I prefer the embracement approach.

I look forward to hearing much more! Thank you.

that’s it,
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“The reason change is a bad idea is that our wish to change often stems from a lack of self-love.”

This is a completely profound perspective you’ve provided. My spin is now love that which you wish to change, and I believe a change will naturally occur.

All I can say is love you for providing this perspective.

Thank you Mary
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