Comments on: What is Deep Listening? http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/18/what-is-deep-listening/ Practical inspiration. For a happier life Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:03:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Mary Jaksch http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/18/what-is-deep-listening/#comment-4161 Mary Jaksch Wed, 04 Mar 2009 04:17:20 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=2015#comment-4161 Hi Deepikaur! Yes, everyone should. But it's not so easy. Because we tend to have conversations with ourselves as we listen. We're already formulating what we're going to answer before the other person has finished speaking. Hi Deepikaur!
Yes, everyone should. But it’s not so easy. Because we tend to have conversations with ourselves as we listen. We’re already formulating what we’re going to answer before the other person has finished speaking.

]]> By: deepikaur http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/18/what-is-deep-listening/#comment-4160 deepikaur Wed, 04 Mar 2009 03:06:11 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=2015#comment-4160 Very nice post. Deep listening is important for everyone to master, for not only does it open up new possibilities for the person, but also those surrounding him or her. It allows for people to connect with others better, and to overall live a happier lifestyle. Everyone should practice it at all times possible (which is, all the time). <abbr><em>deepikaurs last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Redefinability/~3/O3UEb8_spxQ/best-ab-workouts-fitness.html" rel="nofollow">Best Ab Workouts [Fitness]</a></abbr></em> Very nice post. Deep listening is important for everyone to master, for not only does it open up new possibilities for the person, but also those surrounding him or her. It allows for people to connect with others better, and to overall live a happier lifestyle. Everyone should practice it at all times possible (which is, all the time).

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]]> By: Adrilia http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/18/what-is-deep-listening/#comment-3973 Adrilia Mon, 23 Feb 2009 20:00:13 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=2015#comment-3973 How beautifully stated: "He opened himself up to seeing a new possibility." This is real communication. The only real communication. Deep listening is such a skill and such a gift. In doing customer service training I realize how very rare this becomes, given all the pressures people deal with. Still, it's a remarkably transformative skill. Thanks for the post! <abbr><em>Adrilias last blog post..<a href="http://www.adriliavpedersen.com/obama-call-to-service" rel="nofollow">President Obama’s Call to Service: Setting us up for Success</a></abbr></em> How beautifully stated: “He opened himself up to seeing a new possibility.” This is real communication. The only real communication. Deep listening is such a skill and such a gift. In doing customer service training I realize how very rare this becomes, given all the pressures people deal with. Still, it’s a remarkably transformative skill. Thanks for the post!

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]]> By: claudio alegre http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/18/what-is-deep-listening/#comment-3926 claudio alegre Sat, 21 Feb 2009 17:39:30 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=2015#comment-3926 Depending i guess on who I'm speaking to, deep listening takes on a different form. Some people verbalize the opposite of how they feel, Some people verbalize the opposite of what they believe, Some people are really not worth deep listening to, I think deep listening requires not an open heart, but an open mind on the real sense of meaning. <abbr><em>claudio alegres last blog post..<a href="http://www.venmarkmedia.com/post.cfm/advantages-of-pay-per-click-ppc-marketing-for-businesses" rel="nofollow">Advantages of Pay per Click (PPC) Marketing for Businesses</a></abbr></em> Depending i guess on who I’m speaking to, deep listening takes on a different form. Some people verbalize the opposite of how they feel,
Some people verbalize the opposite of what they believe,
Some people are really not worth deep listening to,
I think deep listening requires not an open heart, but an open mind on the real sense of meaning.

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]]> By: Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/18/what-is-deep-listening/#comment-3910 Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching Fri, 20 Feb 2009 21:00:12 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=2015#comment-3910 Thanks for this post. One thing I often do when I'm listening to people is to focus on the tone of what they're saying rather than their words. Then it seems that I can hear the feelings and desires, which are what's truly important to my conversation partner anyway. <abbr><em>Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coachings last blog post..<a href="http://www.purposepowercoaching.com/site/?p=225" rel="nofollow">Inner Productivity, Part Five: Breathing Through Our Fear</a></abbr></em> Thanks for this post. One thing I often do when I’m listening to people is to focus on the tone of what they’re saying rather than their words. Then it seems that I can hear the feelings and desires, which are what’s truly important to my conversation partner anyway.

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]]> By: Nicholas Powiull http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/18/what-is-deep-listening/#comment-3906 Nicholas Powiull Fri, 20 Feb 2009 14:51:45 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=2015#comment-3906 Within most people there is a continuous mind chatter and mental noise dialogging on the background of every moment. This dialogging is in a continuous struggle, since in every moment it has a goal or desire that needs completed in order to make a problem better. This part of you is always questioning with "what if" dilemmas and creating stressful patterns when you respond to it by dwelling on it. I discovered when the mind is quiet of the mental chatter, something phenomenal happens. The struggle stops, stress raises itself absent, depression melts away, and things I once saw as problems are nothing but a product of the mind. The pain of the problems disappear for the reason that you see the 'problems' are nothing more then a situation that desires attention. The mind does not want to be in the present, the mind fixates a need within people to be in the future, where a goal, plan, or desire needs fulfilling in order to relieve itself from the moment of now. The mind is continuously struggling in every moment to attain itself in an undertaking to get absent from the moment. However, when living in the moment then your not worried about the time is going to take to get it done (future), you not stressed over the thought of having so much to do because you realize the moment you get it done, within that moment of completion, your mind will think of another goal to achieve. When living in the moment you realize that you will always be incomplete when it comes to goals, so you never worry yourself about them, you just live in the moment and do the things feel good in that moment. You dont have thoughts of "I have to get this done or else this and this will happen!" because you realize that is the mind. Quieting the mind is indeed the most magnificent way to truly listen. Thank you for this article and the opportunity to comment :) <abbr><em>Nicholas Powiulls last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ConsciousFlex/~3/515676338/powiull-sleep-day-10-11-adopting.html" rel="nofollow">Powiull Sleep Day 10-11 (Adopting Powiull Sleep: Different Methods): by Nicholas Powiull</a></abbr></em> Within most people there is a continuous mind chatter and mental noise dialogging on the background of every moment. This dialogging is in a continuous struggle, since in every moment it has a goal or desire that needs completed in order to make a problem better. This part of you is always questioning with “what if” dilemmas and creating stressful patterns when you respond to it by dwelling on it.

I discovered when the mind is quiet of the mental chatter, something phenomenal happens. The struggle stops, stress raises itself absent, depression melts away, and things I once saw as problems are nothing but a product of the mind. The pain of the problems disappear for the reason that you see the ‘problems’ are nothing more then a situation that desires attention.

The mind does not want to be in the present, the mind fixates a need within people to be in the future, where a goal, plan, or desire needs fulfilling in order to relieve itself from the moment of now. The mind is continuously struggling in every moment to attain itself in an undertaking to get absent from the moment.

However, when living in the moment then your not worried about the time is going to take to get it done (future), you not stressed over the thought of having so much to do because you realize the moment you get it done, within that moment of completion, your mind will think of another goal to achieve. When living in the moment you realize that you will always be incomplete when it comes to goals, so you never worry yourself about them, you just live in the moment and do the things feel good in that moment. You dont have thoughts of “I have to get this done or else this and this will happen!” because you realize that is the mind.

Quieting the mind is indeed the most magnificent way to truly listen. Thank you for this article and the opportunity to comment :)

Nicholas Powiulls last blog post..Powiull Sleep Day 10-11 (Adopting Powiull Sleep: Different Methods): by Nicholas Powiull

]]> By: Josh Gale http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/18/what-is-deep-listening/#comment-3895 Josh Gale Fri, 20 Feb 2009 00:14:42 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=2015#comment-3895 It's amazing how our pre-judegments on another person's thinking or motivations generate emotions and reactions that would have never come up if we had just listened deeply. I'm doing an acting course at the moment and the teacher keeps saying that the best actors are the most attentive listeners because by doing so they take the emphasis of themselves and put it on the other character and the scene, bringing it to life. In life we're all playing roles, not in a conniving way, but in the sense that we put on different hats throughout the day, so as as Shakespeare said - "all of life is a stage" - to give our lives rich with detail and energy we can start by taking the attention off our on myriad of thoughts and onto the words and feelings of the people we're sharing the stage of life with. Great post, thanks Joe and Mary. It’s amazing how our pre-judegments on another person’s thinking or motivations generate emotions and reactions that would have never come up if we had just listened deeply. I’m doing an acting course at the moment and the teacher keeps saying that the best actors are the most attentive listeners because by doing so they take the emphasis of themselves and put it on the other character and the scene, bringing it to life. In life we’re all playing roles, not in a conniving way, but in the sense that we put on different hats throughout the day, so as as Shakespeare said – “all of life is a stage” – to give our lives rich with detail and energy we can start by taking the attention off our on myriad of thoughts and onto the words and feelings of the people we’re sharing the stage of life with. Great post, thanks Joe and Mary.

]]> By: Chad Prigmore http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/18/what-is-deep-listening/#comment-3888 Chad Prigmore Thu, 19 Feb 2009 16:34:03 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=2015#comment-3888 Your first couple of lines in this post allude to meditative reflection, which is the best way to really hear someone. By giving up our own agenda, and not thinking about what our response will be, we are able to just listen completely and hear the message behind the words. I feel this is where genuine relationship comes from. <abbr><em>Chad Prigmores last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheEffectiveSpirit/~3/AEQ0M9Ekzak/17-x-365-6205.html" rel="nofollow">17 X 365 = 6,205</a></abbr></em> Your first couple of lines in this post allude to meditative reflection, which is the best way to really hear someone.

By giving up our own agenda, and not thinking about what our response will be, we are able to just listen completely and hear the message behind the words. I feel this is where genuine relationship comes from.

Chad Prigmores last blog post..17 X 365 = 6,205

]]> By: Tim @ MiniLifeHacks http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/18/what-is-deep-listening/#comment-3883 Tim @ MiniLifeHacks Thu, 19 Feb 2009 13:18:06 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=2015#comment-3883 It seems to be the overall consensus that the recent increase in the speed of daily life is not beneficial to our spiritual well-being. I wonder if we will find a happy medium or figure out a way to make fast-living spiritually effective. It seems to be the overall consensus that the recent increase in the speed of daily life is not beneficial to our spiritual well-being. I wonder if we will find a happy medium or figure out a way to make fast-living spiritually effective.

]]> By: Glen Allsopp http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/18/what-is-deep-listening/#comment-3876 Glen Allsopp Thu, 19 Feb 2009 09:54:56 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=2015#comment-3876 Nice example Mary. I like the thought of 'listening with your whole body' and not let mental clutter get in the way. Great post! Cheers, Glen <abbr><em>Glen Allsopps last blog post..<a href="http://www.pluginid.com/inspiring-video-this-year/" rel="nofollow">The Most Inspiring Video You’ll Watch This Year</a></abbr></em> Nice example Mary. I like the thought of ‘listening with your whole body’ and not let mental clutter get in the way.

Great post!

Cheers,
Glen

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