Comments on: Is Goodness a Skill? http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/09/is-goodness-a-skill/ Practical inspiration. For a happier life Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:21:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Mary Jaksch http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/09/is-goodness-a-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-4216 Mary Jaksch Thu, 05 Mar 2009 17:23:06 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=1877#comment-4216 Hi Jared! I really like what you say: "But almost ALWAYS, when I feel my self in a foul mood caused by something outside myself, there is something within me I am unhappy with." That's a great way to take responsibility for our moods! Hi Jared!
I really like what you say: “But almost ALWAYS, when I feel my self in a foul mood caused by something outside myself, there is something within me I am unhappy with.” That’s a great way to take responsibility for our moods!

]]> By: Jared http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/09/is-goodness-a-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-4208 Jared Thu, 05 Mar 2009 14:57:20 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=1877#comment-4208 Great post, thanks. I have found, that in most instances, when my emotions move towards one of resentment or anger, there is something within me that is threatened. If I'm in a place of peace with myself, love of self, and accepting of the consequences of being myself, external things do not bother me as much. For me, it takes practice, prayer, and mediation on a daily basis. When I feel a disturbance in my inner peace as a result of something someone says or does, I try to determine, is it true? What is my part? And am I being understanding rather than understood? It does take practice to be skillful. But almost ALWAYS, when I feel my self in a foul mood caused by something outside myself, there is something within me I am unhappy with. So by starting each day with prayer and mediation, asking for guidance and listening for it throughout the day, I do more right things. Then at the end of the day I can review the day and see if there's something I can improve on or if any amends need to be made. By doing this, I'm more at peace with myself and less likely to be moved to say "or think" something foul in response to anyone or anything. <abbr><em>Jareds last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SpiritualZen/~3/kWlPPXtiyrw/" rel="nofollow">My Heaven</a></abbr></em> Great post, thanks.

I have found, that in most instances, when my emotions move towards one of resentment or anger, there is something within me that is threatened. If I’m in a place of peace with myself, love of self, and accepting of the consequences of being myself, external things do not bother me as much.

For me, it takes practice, prayer, and mediation on a daily basis. When I feel a disturbance in my inner peace as a result of something someone says or does, I try to determine, is it true? What is my part? And am I being understanding rather than understood?

It does take practice to be skillful. But almost ALWAYS, when I feel my self in a foul mood caused by something outside myself, there is something within me I am unhappy with. So by starting each day with prayer and mediation, asking for guidance and listening for it throughout the day, I do more right things. Then at the end of the day I can review the day and see if there’s something I can improve on or if any amends need to be made. By doing this, I’m more at peace with myself and less likely to be moved to say “or think” something foul in response to anyone or anything.

Jareds last blog post..My Heaven

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]]> By: CG Walters http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/09/is-goodness-a-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-3754 CG Walters Mon, 16 Feb 2009 12:02:37 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=1877#comment-3754 ...I agree that skillful and unskillful are very good descriptives. This wonderful article was featured in the latest CelebraZine (Celebrate What’s Right in the World), http://kathmandau.blogspot.com/2009/02/celebrazine-16feb09.html Thank you for your contribution to our world, Blessings to you and all you hold dear, CG <abbr><em>CG Walterss last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/IntoTheMist/~3/538790875/celebrazine-13feb09.html" rel="nofollow">CelebraZine 13Feb09</a></abbr></em> …I agree that skillful and unskillful are very good descriptives.

This wonderful article was featured in the latest CelebraZine (Celebrate What’s Right in the World),
http://kathmandau.blogspot.com/2009/02/celebrazine-16feb09.html
Thank you for your contribution to our world,
Blessings to you and all you hold dear,
CG

CG Walterss last blog post..CelebraZine 13Feb09

]]> By: CelebraZine 16Feb09 « Into the Mist http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/09/is-goodness-a-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-3751 CelebraZine 16Feb09 « Into the Mist Mon, 16 Feb 2009 11:16:46 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=1877#comment-3751 [...] Jaksch presents Is Goodness a Skill? at GoodLife [...] [...] Jaksch presents Is Goodness a Skill? at GoodLife [...]

]]> By: Celes | EmbraceLiving.Net http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/09/is-goodness-a-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-3624 Celes | EmbraceLiving.Net Thu, 12 Feb 2009 08:49:20 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=1877#comment-3624 Hi Mary! Thanks for your great article :) I believe all of us have goodness and purity in our heart. While there may be times we feel negative towards others, it roots from a misunderstanding of each other's intentions. Your point about being present conveys that perfectly - to really open our minds to seeing what's happening as objective as possible, rather than clouding it with subjectivity of the past and our perceptions. Thank you for this great article :D <abbr><em>Celes | EmbraceLiving.Nets last blog post..<a href="http://embraceliving.net/blog/2009/02/are-you-emotionally-generous/" rel="nofollow">Are You Emotionally Generous?</a></abbr></em> Hi Mary! Thanks for your great article :) I believe all of us have goodness and purity in our heart. While there may be times we feel negative towards others, it roots from a misunderstanding of each other’s intentions. Your point about being present conveys that perfectly – to really open our minds to seeing what’s happening as objective as possible, rather than clouding it with subjectivity of the past and our perceptions. Thank you for this great article :D

Celes | EmbraceLiving.Nets last blog post..Are You Emotionally Generous?

]]> By: Mary Jaksch http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/09/is-goodness-a-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-3612 Mary Jaksch Thu, 12 Feb 2009 01:35:50 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=1877#comment-3612 Hi Amanda! Yes - knowing that I can practice being skilful gives me hope. Hi Amanda!
Yes – knowing that I can practice being skilful gives me hope.

]]> By: Amanda Linehan http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/09/is-goodness-a-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-3610 Amanda Linehan Thu, 12 Feb 2009 00:52:34 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=1877#comment-3610 Hi Mary, You couldn't choose to do Good, if you couldn't also choose to do Evil. So the trick is, as you pointed out, not to eradicate all "evil" in you, but to practice choosing Good. The more times you do it the easier it gets! <abbr><em>Amanda Linehans last blog post..<a href="http://amandalinehan.com/are-you-afraid-to-be-alone/" rel="nofollow">Are You Afraid To Be Alone?</a></abbr></em> Hi Mary,

You couldn’t choose to do Good, if you couldn’t also choose to do Evil. So the trick is, as you pointed out, not to eradicate all “evil” in you, but to practice choosing Good. The more times you do it the easier it gets!

Amanda Linehans last blog post..Are You Afraid To Be Alone?

]]> By: Mary Jaksch http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/09/is-goodness-a-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-3609 Mary Jaksch Wed, 11 Feb 2009 23:55:26 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=1877#comment-3609 Hi Chris! "Unlearning"? That's a lovely way to see the development of goodness. Hi Chris!
“Unlearning”?
That’s a lovely way to see the development of goodness.

]]> By: Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching http://goodlifezen.com/2009/02/09/is-goodness-a-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-3607 Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching Wed, 11 Feb 2009 23:35:16 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/?p=1877#comment-3607 Thanks for this post. Sometimes I wonder if the skill we need to find inner peace is really at unlearning -- at unlearning all the ways we defend ourselves from being hurt, based on the false belief that things they say can take away from who we are in our true essence. <abbr><em>Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coachings last blog post..<a href="http://www.purposepowercoaching.com/site/?p=222" rel="nofollow">Inner Productivity, Part Four: Some Exercises For Self-Listening</a></abbr></em> Thanks for this post. Sometimes I wonder if the skill we need to find inner peace is really at unlearning — at unlearning all the ways we defend ourselves from being hurt, based on the false belief that things they say can take away from who we are in our true essence.

Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coachings last blog post..Inner Productivity, Part Four: Some Exercises For Self-Listening

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