Comments on: Secrets of Wellbeing Series — Part 1: Authentic Happiness http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/ Practical inspiration. For a happier life Wed, 08 Feb 2012 13:04:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Love Really is All you Need, 8 Tips to Living a Happy Life | Our Good Life Biz http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-17574 Love Really is All you Need, 8 Tips to Living a Happy Life | Our Good Life Biz Tue, 07 Feb 2012 23:22:04 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-17574 [...] built on a foundational knowing that everything is fundamentally okay, has many levels. And life of enjoyment is only one [...] [...] built on a foundational knowing that everything is fundamentally okay, has many levels. And life of enjoyment is only one [...]

]]> By: C. http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-17475 C. Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:36:40 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-17475 Thank you! I am glad somebody said something. Happiness cannot be found by following a step by step process. Much of the human experience is being fully present in unpleasant moments. I suppose the idea behind "focusing on the good times" is to prevent people getting from getting lost in the negative experience but the way it is worded gives the wrong impression. Happiness is a state, not a destination and if you are constantly focusing on the positivs stuff, you are perpetuating the idea that people only benefit from good experiences, most of my growth and understanding has come from the less pleasant stuff. The idea behind being fully present in the moment is not to ignore negative experiences but to be present in them and find ways to understand, cope and move on. Happiness cannot be found or chased, it simply is. What can be found is your way of existing in it. Thank you! I am glad somebody said something. Happiness cannot be found by following a step by step process. Much of the human experience is being fully present in unpleasant moments. I suppose the idea behind “focusing on the good times” is to prevent people getting from getting lost in the negative experience but the way it is worded gives the wrong impression. Happiness is a state, not a destination and if you are constantly focusing on the positivs stuff, you are perpetuating the idea that people only benefit from good experiences, most of my growth and understanding has come from the less pleasant stuff. The idea behind being fully present in the moment is not to ignore negative experiences but to be present in them and find ways to understand, cope and move on. Happiness cannot be found or chased, it simply is. What can be found is your way of existing in it.

]]> By: jared http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-17329 jared Tue, 24 Jan 2012 14:14:17 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-17329 This is a great look at happiness from a more holistic view. As I read through the list I was thinking... "OK, that's good, but if that's the only source of my happiness I'm in trouble or ill equipped to deal with certain stages of life." Although then I re-read the article and realized these were all three important strands for a more holistic view. Very nice. This is a great article because I can completely relate to have only 1 or two of these strands in certain periods in my life. External fulfillment or a "mission" based on my perceived strengths. But not until I truly surrendered to myself and started over, learning to become emotionally connected to self did I experience a completely different level of happiness. To love, receive love, all those cliche' things, are so real and amazing. One interesting study is the Grant Longitudinal study. A good story about it on the Atlantic Magazine in the article "What Makes us Happy?" http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2009/06/what-makes-us-happy/7439/ In a nutshell, "Love, full stop." This is a great look at happiness from a more holistic view.

As I read through the list I was thinking… “OK, that’s good, but if that’s the only source of my happiness I’m in trouble or ill equipped to deal with certain stages of life.” Although then I re-read the article and realized these were all three important strands for a more holistic view. Very nice.

This is a great article because I can completely relate to have only 1 or two of these strands in certain periods in my life. External fulfillment or a “mission” based on my perceived strengths. But not until I truly surrendered to myself and started over, learning to become emotionally connected to self did I experience a completely different level of happiness. To love, receive love, all those cliche’ things, are so real and amazing.

One interesting study is the Grant Longitudinal study. A good story about it on the Atlantic Magazine in the article “What Makes us Happy?”
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2009/06/what-makes-us-happy/7439/

In a nutshell, “Love, full stop.”
jared´s last [type] ..HTBH Podcast 002 – How to Be Happy Dating

]]> By: 9 Happiness Posts That Will Cheer You Up When You Are Overwhelmed | Grad Meets World http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-11073 9 Happiness Posts That Will Cheer You Up When You Are Overwhelmed | Grad Meets World Fri, 18 Feb 2011 21:03:41 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-11073 [...] How to Find Authentic Happiness – GoodLife Zen [...] [...] How to Find Authentic Happiness – GoodLife Zen [...]

]]> By: 25 Virtues for the Minimalist World-Changer | The Art of Minimalism http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-10399 25 Virtues for the Minimalist World-Changer | The Art of Minimalism Tue, 04 Jan 2011 23:30:29 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-10399 [...] Jaksch – Zen master and author, teaching others how to find authentic happiness through simple [...] [...] Jaksch – Zen master and author, teaching others how to find authentic happiness through simple [...]

]]> By: sam davenson http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-8616 sam davenson Tue, 10 Aug 2010 14:03:06 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-8616 <a href="#comment-237" rel="nofollow">@Arne</a>, I love that. @Arne,

I love that.

]]> By: Christopher Kane http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-7686 Christopher Kane Tue, 27 Apr 2010 09:22:18 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-7686 A little off the subject maybe, but a request for people to consider the ethics of purchasing things like designer clothes. Do try and consider, for example, the things the product is made from, the human rights of the factories where they're manufactured and the ethics of retailers. And endeavour to share rather than discarding. Thanks!!!! A little off the subject maybe, but a request for people to consider the ethics of purchasing things like designer clothes. Do try and consider, for example, the things the product is made from, the human rights of the factories where they’re manufactured and the ethics of retailers. And endeavour to share rather than discarding. Thanks!!!!

]]> By: The Ultimate Simple Living Guide: 95 Rockin’ Posts http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-7639 The Ultimate Simple Living Guide: 95 Rockin’ Posts Fri, 23 Apr 2010 14:01:51 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-7639 [...] You’ll Ever Need 7. 10 Instant Tips to be Happier Now 8. How to Be Happier with What You Have9. Secrets of Wellbeing Series — Part 1: Authentic Happiness 10. The Psychology of Happiness: 13 Steps to a Better [...] [...] You’ll Ever Need 7. 10 Instant Tips to be Happier Now 8. How to Be Happier with What You Have9. Secrets of Wellbeing Series — Part 1: Authentic Happiness 10. The Psychology of Happiness: 13 Steps to a Better [...]

]]> By: The Art of Legacy Blog » The Ultimate Guide to Creating a Legacy: 100 Insanely Useful Posts http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-7534 The Art of Legacy Blog » The Ultimate Guide to Creating a Legacy: 100 Insanely Useful Posts Tue, 13 Apr 2010 21:10:35 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-7534 [...] Secrets of Wellbeing Series — Part 1: Authentic Happiness by Mary Jaksch [...] [...] Secrets of Wellbeing Series — Part 1: Authentic Happiness by Mary Jaksch [...]

]]> By: Alisa http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-7452 Alisa Thu, 01 Apr 2010 06:54:30 +0000 http://goodlifezen.com/2008/02/02/secrets-of-wellbeing-part-1-authentic-happiness/#comment-7452 I feel joy is more a pleasure we get from our senses - tasty food, great book or movie, a laugh with a friend e t.c. It is more like 'at this particular moment I feel joy' Happiness is completely another layer which may not come from pleasing our senses. It is something within, our attitude, the structure of inner system. You can feel joy one moment and lose it the next, but if you are happy within external conditions and their change matter less to that state. What's more I read from some Zen principles: sometimes we even need to deprive ourselves of instant joy to find happiness within I feel joy is more a pleasure we get from our senses – tasty food, great book or movie, a laugh with a friend e t.c. It is more like ‘at this particular moment I feel joy’
Happiness is completely another layer which may not come from pleasing our senses. It is something within, our attitude, the structure of inner system.
You can feel joy one moment and lose it the next, but if you are happy within external conditions and their change matter less to that state.
What’s more I read from some Zen principles: sometimes we even need to deprive ourselves of instant joy to find happiness within

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